You’ll Get Through This – a book for tough times


Encouraging Words
when you’re “Walking through the Valley” in Terror

© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
in the What I’m Reading Series

LucadoBookJkt_GetThruWhen the going gets TOUGH . . .

The tough reach out for help and inspiration!

“We pass much of life – if not most of life – at mid-altitude.  Occasionally we summit a peak: our wedding, a promotion, the birth of a child.  But most of life is lived at midlevel. Mondayish obligations of carpools, expense reports, and recipes.

But on occasion the world bottoms out.  The dune buggy flips, the housing market crashes, the test results come back positive, and before we know it, we discover what the bottom looks like.” ~ You’ll get through this – Max Lucado

Many thanks . . .

. . . to Wayne and Jeanie Smith, my friends from Little Rock who sent this book by post. It arrived today.

Having cared for me through the final stages of the healing of a crushed dominant hand as the result of a gang mugging last December, they – of all of the people in my life at this time – were aware of how very much I needed the thoughts in this small volume right now.

Say what?

Regular readers of the articles here on ADDandSoMuchMore.com may have read between the lines well enough to realize that I’ve just come though a really tough two years, culminating (or so I’d hoped) in a December mugging at gunpoint when my dominant hand was crushed as the thugs pushed me face down to prevent me from being able to identify them.

I only recently had the cast removed, after THREE immobilizing months where there was precious little I was able to do for myself. I am in the process of recovering my former functionality and taking steps to put my life back together.  MORE each day, but not back yet ::groan::

JUST when I thought things couldn’t get much worse, they did.

Packing2MoveI received an official notice that, for an unspecified reason I don’t know or understand, my landlord decided, at this particular crazy time, to send me a certified letter saying she has “chosen not to renew [my] lease for any additional terms and to terminate [ . . . my ] right to occupy.”

Unless she decides to be kind enough to grant my request for just one more month, my goose is cooking!  At this point, she is insisting that I “vacate the premises no later than May 31, 2014 in accordance with the Ohio Landlord Tenant Act” — or face official eviction.

Essentially her original notice meant, “Get out within THIRTY short days or I’ll set things up so that you will never get anyone to rent to you in this state and all your worldly goods will be forcibly removed and disposed of” — a landlord right according to Ohio law.

HOLY MOLEY!

  • I must pack and move with full usage of (essentially) one non-dominant hand (once I scramble to purchase boxes and bubble wrap and packing tape, oh my!)
  • I have no place to quickly evacuate TO, since plans were already in the works to relocate by early Fall, not to lock myself into a brand new one-year Cincinnati lease on another apartment — or to jump through the hoops of an interim move.
  • I haven’t a clue what to do with all of my furniture, clothing, and belongings until I can figure out what situation, climate or location I need to pack FOR.
  • I still haven’t been able to replace everything stolen from me in the mugging (including meds) — AND —
  • With plane tickets purchased and hotel paid for, I am locked into being in Phoenix for a solid week of the time in which I have to do it all, leaving me a scant THREE WEEKS!!

. . . Just the tip of the iceburg of what I’m currently attempting to handle!
(Nobody’s forgotten that I continue to struggle with ADD with high distractibility and short-term memory deficits, PTSD and a bodacious sleep disorder, right?)

MOREpacking2moveI think you’ll have no trouble believing that FREAKING OUT might be an understatement of my emotional tone many minutes of my days lately!

Reading Max Lucado’s little book, page by section by page, every time overwhelm threatens to engulf me, has become my refuge.

It is helping me reframe, recenter and shift my come-from.

So I hope you can take the circumstances above as an excellent background from which to encourage any of YOU who are struggling to pick up a copy and read it!

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Booklist from the original ADD Coach Training



ACO Conference Binder 2012 –
Blog expanded Speaker Content
Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – Part 4d


“It takes a village to educate a world.
~  Madelyn Griffith-Haynie

“If the shoe doesn’t fit, don’t blame the FOOT!”
~  Madelyn Griffith-Haynie (the motto of OFI’s ADD Coach Training)

Required Reading
for OFI ‘s ADD Coach Training

The following were the Required Books for the original ADD Coach Training I delivered through my first company, The Optimal Functional Institute™ [OFI]

I chose these books initially because they contained information that I intended to refer to throughout the  Coach Training modules that made up the certification-compliant, ADD-specific coach training that I began in beta way back in 1994  —  the training that started a field.

To keep my student’s initial investment low, I chose the following books as ones I would refer to often because they were (and are) approachable, written in simple language, with great lists and descriptions of what these new ADD coaches would encounter with attentionally challenged clients.

Specific sections of these books were  required as background information for class discussions, in addition to the module content that I developed.

I required the following books specifically because they had already languaged beautifully many of the elements that I felt it important to point out in specific areas of their training.

Two of the original choices, Susan Setley’s Taming the Dragons and
Thom Hartman’s Focus Your Energy, subsequently went out of print,
but if you can find them used, nab them!

As time marched on, other excellent books became part of the bibliography that those enrolled received with their course materials.

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