Slow-cooking CHANGE


Metaphors of Mind & Brain Redux
edited excerpt from Our Brains, Crock Pots™ and Microwaves (Jan. 2015)

Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

The way in which my brain is rather like a Crock Pot™ frequently comes to mind. I put more than a few things in “slow-cook” mode, figuring that I’ll be better able to handle them later, and that they will still be “digestible” if I forget about them for a while.

By giving ourselves permission to do things our own way on our own timetables, our brain responds with a way to solve problems and work around challenges that works best for us.

I frequently use the term “slow-cook” as a communication short-cut when I coach. It is especially useful when I work with change resistance.

In my many years working with all sorts of individuals I have observed that what trips us up most is a process akin to denial – that just because something works for the rest of the world it darn well should work for us too!

If you want to understand how you work,
you need to pay deliberate attention
to how YOU work! Duh!

Until we begin to observe the unique manner in which we respond and react, we unconsciously defend or attack ourselves from expectations that, somewhere deep inside, we know are unrealistic, given our particular flavor of whatever is going on with us.

That way lies madness!

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Reframing Change for World Leaders


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Leading toward a vision YOU create

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Part of the What Kind of World do YOU Want? series

“Most people try to get others to change.”

“Instead, when leading consciously,
you use the power you have to
intentionally choose actions
that can make a profound difference
in your interactions with others –
both personally and professionally.”
Jean Kantambu Latting

Leading Consciously

If you are unfamiliar with Leading Consciously and Jean Latting, allow me to introduce you to your new best friend.

Although those of you who are regular visitors may have noticed her comments and my replies at the end of some of the articles here, I have been unable to decide how to share more of her wisdom until now.

She is not an ADD/EFD resource, after all — and this is an ADD/EFD-focused blog.

I couldn’t figure out the right “hook” that would allow you to understand why I find what she writes about so uplifting and encouraging — and so unbelievably relevant to those of us who often struggle with leading ourselves out the front door in a conscious manner!

Perhaps, unconsciously, I launched the What Kind of World? series to find a place to introduce Jean, and a great many resources like her.

These adopted mentors and inspirational colleagues don’t necessarily work with ADD or ADDers, and they don’t completely understand the ADD experience — but they are open to attempting to understand, and they admire all attempts at conscious co-creation.

Because they understand human beings, they embrace all of humanity.  It feels so refreshingly good to be embraced, doesn’t it? How lovely it is to be encouraged to reach and grow, rather than criticized or made fun of for being unwilling or unable to live inside somebody else’s box.

We share a single vision, albeit glimpsed from individual vantage points:
A world that works for EVERYONE.

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