Standing FOR High Standards


Indications of who you really are
Creating your Reality

© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
from the Coaching Series

Higher or Lower?

Several years ago I posted a couple of coaching articles written to open your paradigms on the way to breaking loose from the habit of perfectionism and black and white thinking:

The Virtues of Lowering your Standards
and
Getting to Good Enough

And now it may seem as if I am encouraging you to do the exact opposite. Sheesh!

It’s a trick of language – two different meanings for the same word

When I speak of “lowering your standards” (small “s”) I am using the meaning most similar to, “an idea or thing used as a measure, norm, or model in comparative evaluations.” ~ Google Dictionary

Using that meaning of the word, I am referring primarily to getting beyond that crazy idea that “any task worth doing is worth doing well.”

Many folks continue to intone that meme as if it were a universal truth, without stopping to notice that it’s a great big black and white SHOULD.

It always seemed to me that if the task’s worth doing at all, any forward progress is good forward progress, right?

Aren’t these “Do it WELL” folks the same ones who swear
that “slow and steady wins the race?”

Think AGAIN

JUST because a task is worth doing, doesn’t mean that it is
automatically deserving of top-of-the-line priority focus.  Duh!

A job worth doing is worth doing adequately, too.

There is not enough time in anybody’s life to do every single thing in an A+ manner.  Good enough really IS good enough for many of life’s to-dos and activities.

Embracing that idea leaves a great deal more time for working at the top of your game where it really matters – like honoring your very own Personal Standards.  It makes for a much happier and more satisfying experience of living.

Friend and colleague Tom Nardone came up with a nifty chart to underscore that idea.

Raising Personal Standards is a different animal altogether.

When I speak of raising your Standards (capital “S”), I am using a meaning closer to (but not really the same as) “principles of conduct informed by notions of honor and decency.” ~ Google Dictionary

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Vision, Mission & Purpose – anchors in an uncertain world


Developing a Personal Vision, Purpose & Mission

© Developing by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CMC, MCC, SCAC
– part of the What Kind of World Series
and the DreamCatcher™ Program

roadmapDesigning a roadmap for your BEing through the development of a personal Vision, Purpose & Mission is a HUGE Game to play with your life.

Human Resource Manager promptings to the contrary, not everyone will reach a point where they are ready to work on their Vision, Mission and Purpose — at least not in a manner where it can fulfill its promise as a transformative insight into Identity that will forever alter the steps of your life.

Creating truly authentic Vision, Purpose & Mission statements that will call your life into being usually takes considerably more time and internal focus than most people are prepared to dedicate.

It is a process more globally encompassing than the work and business objectives that are the focus of most of what you will find discussed on the internet.

It’s a Stretch

It’s not an easy process, and is decidedly not for the faint of heart. If you’re not at least a tiny bit frightened or overwhelmed, you’re probably not playing a big enough Game. Embarking on this process calls for nothing less than stepping up and owning your personal power.

You are entering the domain of pure creation.

It may feel a bit like jumping into the deep end of the pool for the very first time.  It helps to have a kindred spirit in the water, arms outstretched – it’s as tough to do in an isolated pool as it is dangerous to attempt in a shark-infested tank.

I am in the process of creating mySelf anew, and I invite anyone who is up to it to join me here on this blog during the year I have given myself to focus on re-creation.

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Oops – Vision, Mission & Purpose – anchors in an uncertain world


Click here for the REAL
Vision, Purpose & Mission article

© Developing by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CMC, MCC, SCAC

roadmapIt was brought to my attention that I had SOMEHOW managed to post an article written in May 2013 with the 2012 archive. AY ME!

To keep from confusing everyone totally, I have reposted it with the correct date, so it will appear at the top of the “most recent articles” as well as archive correctly – so CLICK HERE to read it — with my apologies for any confusion.

FRANK – I have no idea how to move comments, so my response to you remains below – SO sorry for any confusion.

Money Motivation Mythology


Ka-ching!?  Really?
by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

“Money is like manure.
It’s not worth a thing unless it’s spread around,
encouraging young things to grow.” 

~Dolly Levi, (from the musical Hello Dolly!)

I know that more than a few people have come across the quote above, but I always wonder how many are aware of the monologue that accompanies it. Quoting the lines as closely I can from memory, here is the part that captured my fancy:

. . . and all it takes is just a little bit of money.

The difference between no money at all and a little bit of money is very slight — yet it can change the world.

The difference between a little bit of money and a great deal of money is very great — and it, too, can change the world.

“Money, pardon the expression, is like manure. It’s not worth a thing unless it’s spread around, encouraging young things to grow.” 

Fertilizer of a Different Sort

Since I am in the process of beginning life anew, about to take another big leap, I have hyperfocused on feeding mySelf nutritiously. (Oh no, I still eat the occasional chocolate bunny – I’m not talking about that kind of food. I’m talking about feeding my brain and my soul.)

Beginning a few weeks before leaving to speak at the 5th Annual ACO Conference (ADHD Coaches Organization), held only a few weeks ago, I have been making it a point to begin and end my days with an inspirational video. I’ve been a a relatively positive person for most of my life anyway, but even cheerleaders yearn to have a few cheerleaders of their own from time to time.

Right away, I discovered that I had forgotten how incredibly effective they are on a great many levels.

I can’t begin to describe how much more positive, competent, and ready-for-bear I feel after only a few short weeks of this habit — lighter, happier, more like I felt long before I ever suspected that there might be such a thing as a “school of hard knocks.”

I have found a wealth of inspiring content, which I will share with you in upcoming posts in this “What Kind of World do you Want” series.  If your life could use a bit of feel-good inspiration, take the time to click on a link or two at the end of each of the articles with the small graphic of the globe in the upper right corner.)

In any case, think about this as you read the posts in this series, as a REAL question: 

What kind of world DO you want to live into?

Think about it in the same manner that a 4-star chef asks what he or she wants to create for dinner: as if you could cook up anything you were in the mood to eat.

Meanwhile, let’s spend a bit of time thinking about motivation – in particular, the relationship between motivation and MONEY!

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