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Reframing to Rewire (First in a series)
by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Most of us take that “Are you out of your mind?” question to mean that we’ve just said or done something NUTS. I want to stand that idea on its ear.
I think it would be FAR more powerful to use that phrase as a reminder to do exactly that: to GET out of our minds.
To “get out of our reactionary mind” so that we can align our actions with our intentions is more what I had in my mind, so let’s explore how we might begin to DO that.
For those of us with Executive Functioning Dysregulation, following one idea to completion is frequently an exercise in frustration and failure.
Metaphorically, our brains are rather like a tangle of string-like dendritic connections resembling a plate of cooked spaghetti.
About the only way we can locate both ends of a single strand of spaghetti on a dinner plate is to lift it up out of the plate and away from the rest of the tangle.
After twenty plus years of investigating ADD/EFD and working with all kinds of EFD Challenges, I’ve come to believe that “getting it up and out of the plate for closer observation” is the most successful way to locate both “ends” of a single train of thought as well.
When that single-thought strand is left tangled with the other strands, we can become like Alice in Wonderland clones, looping around relatively aimlessly and getting ourselves into all sorts of odd predicaments.
Lifting that strand of spaghetti away from its tangle successfully is where the mere presence of another person makes all the difference in the world: an ADD/EFD-literate mentor, coach, or non-judgmental friend who can reframe our challenges simply by virtue of the fact that, from their vantage point, things don’t look so convoluted.
(More to come about that concept in a later post in this series)
Movin’ ON to the Rewiring