LOL – You KNOW you have ADD when …


Laughing Out Loud —
You’ve gotta’ be a citizen of
Alphabet City when …

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

Laughing Out Loud for YEARS now

Artist: Johnny Automatic

Here’s A BIT of history excerpted from ABOUT LOL, a brief article I posted here  back in March 2011, introducing the LOL…You KNOW idea to [probably] a brand new crop of ADDers seeking support.

This little ditty first appeared in the early 1990s on the AOL ADD forum (yiikes! somewhere around 25 years ago now – longer than some of the readers of ADDandSoMuchMore have been alive!!)

It was a time when ADD Conferences were just beginning to be organized and promoted, the Internet was still a baby, and The World Wide Web was barely born. America on Line was relatively new too — and one of the few places where a vital and rapidly growing community of ADDers could meet in virtual chat rooms to support one another with empathy, a few tears and a great deal of humor.

JIMAMS, the official leader of the ADD on-line group, was like the Energizer Bunny in his dedication to AOL’s leadership in the ADD online community.

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The REAL Secret to Inner Peace


An Inner Peace Reframe

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Part of the What Kind of World Series
with gratitude to my friend Lew Bolton,
who sent it to me by email

This one will be an unusually brief missive
drafted early this morning, in the midst of my sabbatical.
I hope it brings a smile to your face too.
~ mgh

Taking the Time to spend the time

After spending the first couple of weeks supporting a friend and colleague who needed and deserved my support as she dealt with an impossible-to-imagine scenario, my sabbatical is finally underway and yielding fruit.

Although I haven’t been able to get out of town – YET – pulling myself off the treadmill of the struggles of accomplishment has given me time to reflect. 

I feel calmer, more focused, heartened – and more positive every day – even though I have not yet completed the task I set for myself before I came to the unfortunate conclusion that I was flat-out burned-out and had to STOP. 

As I disclosed in an earlier article (See You in September?), I suddenly became aware of the urgency of my need to take the remainder of the summer off —

“a much needed respite from any focus on ADD or the needs of others, making that time available for a focused exploration of an important decision I need to make for my own life: how I choose to spend the remainder of my time here on earth, given the choices now available to me”

My goal is to return with a fresh mind and a new game-plan that will allow me to re-aim and re-arm myself.

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The Top Ten Things about Top Ten Lists


Listing what I love about LISTS!

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

As I said on the “Top Ten” Intro post, ABOUT the Top Tens:

Top Ten Lists are pretty much what they sound like —

Quickie sketch of a piece of paper with lines on it - representing the text of top tenslists of 10 items in a particular category that stand out as the top tier of a possible bazillion items for consideration.

Tone generally varies, depending on mood and functional level of the day, as does format.

Some of my Top Tens here on ADD-and-so-much-more will consist of bullet-points without much explanation or context.  Others will be augmented by comments of some sort, and a few will be more like articles with ten points.

Top Tens and ADD brains are made for each other!

Lists with ten items provide the perfect combination of flexibility and structure — with permission to vamp.

(Oh yeah, and because ADD Top Tens are generally written by ADDers, we can’t afford to be too literal about “top” or we’ll be ruminating over the pros and cons of inclusion ad infinitum.)

The subject matter of any particular ADD Top Ten List is limited only by the particular ADD mind of the author (which is like saying “limited by infinity”).

YOU PLAY TOO: Once you’ve read “About the Top Tens,” (or even if you haven’t!), use the comments section below to keep adding to this list (or any of the others that might strike your fancy)

Make sure you take the opportunity to ADD your take on the lists – don’t simply type “ditto” — and don’t invalidate anyone else’s world view, please.

ALSO, don’t get hooked on the “TOP” Ten part – whatever pops into your brain probably qualifies.

AND NOW – on to that list . . .

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My Wrinkle in Time: HOW does time fly?


What Makes Time Fly?

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
a light-hearted introduction to So-Much-More about Time


For over a quarter of a century now, I have been fascinated with anything related to the topic of the awareness of the passage of time.

My secret fascination with the mechanics of time’s awareness began long before I first learned that I seem to be one who was born without that internal tic-tic-tock with which most people DO seem to have been equipped, part of the standard package.

I’ve been told I can’t get one now, even as an after-market upgrade.

I first began to wonder how anybody managed to
keep track of time when I was a very young child.

  • I had no idea there was such a thing as an inner
    time-sense until I was diagnosed with ADD.
  • I was 38 years old.

From the moment my mother first read me the story of Alice in Wonderland, I felt more of a kinship to the “I’m late, I’m late, I’m late!” White Rabbit than to Alice.  

I can’t recall a time before my mid-twenties when somebody wasn’t rushing me along for one reason or another.

Don’t get me wrong

I was a bright kid. I had no problem understanding the concept of the passage of time. I also noted without confusion that the grownups danced to the cadence of that passage.

Schedules had to be regular and recurring or feathers would fly.

  • Particular foods (like eggs and oatmeal) had to be eaten every morning, shortly after being awakened.
  • Spaghetti and chicken foods were always eaten at night, but never too close to bedtime.
  • And that green salad rule: no green salad early in the day.

That was predictable.  I figured it out all by myself before I was even in school.

After all, food-timing rules were important enough that the grown-ups invented a bunch of code-words for groups of foods that hung out together at certain times, so that everybody could cite the darned things: breakfast, lunch, dinner and snack.

Through my parent’s friends I learned of still more, like supper — and brunch!

Like I said, I was a bright kid.

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ADD Positively Top Ten reblogged


Madelyn Griffith-Haynie says:

I am trying the “reblog” feature for the first time — this is a “Top Ten” you will love – from the ADDPositely blog. (We’ll find out how “reblog” works together.)

In typical ADD fashion, Top “ten” became 33 – complete with the great graphics shown above (not a lot of words, so a quick and funny read).

Enjoy this post – and check out her blog. It’s great!

— xx, mgh

PS. UGH!  IMHO, WordPress “reblog” is a REALLY inflexible (and totally ADD-unfriendly) “feature”  — especially the way it handles graphics! Tried it – HATE IT!

SO sorry!  I’ll figure out some other way if I want to share someone else’s post again. (MEANWHILE, click the “Related Content from around the ‘net” at the bottom of the posts I write for you).

Related Articles on ADDandSoMuchMore.com

Check this out too!

ADD Thanksgiving Rules


The ADD/ADHD Post Thanksgiving Rules*

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

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*With a nod and congrats to Dr. Charles Parker, whose ADHD Medication Rules
hit #1 on Amazon in both Neuroscience and Psychopharmacology!!  Check it out!

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SO THANKFUL for Philip Martin’s generosity with his artwork

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Life in the Now Lane


Drawing of a man "stuck" in the top half of an hourglass, while the sands filter past him to below.Now and Not-now

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

  • Do it NOW
  • Be Here NOW
  • NOW is the winter of our discontent???

Quite the mixed bag of struggle, all this NOW nonsense.

FIRST, there is my struggle to imprison NOW within the construct of time at all. It’s not willing to surrender peacefully.

Buddhists, Hindus, and ancient spiritual traditions suggest that time itself is man’s presumption – that minutes and seconds and years and eons are nothing more than a progression of accumulated nows, artificially massaged into parts and pieces to temper man’s terror of the infinite.

That works for me!

It certainly explains my life-long boggle over all of those questions to which the only accurate answer I could ever give would be a question-specific tailoring of, “Somewhere in the ether of the not-now, Grasshopper”
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If I Should Die


by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

You know the prayer:Graphic of a girl in "onesies pajamas with feet," on her knees praying by the side of a cradle.

Now I lay me down to sleep.
I pray the Lord my soul to keep.
If I should die before I wake
I pray the Lord my soul to take.

Even I know the prayer, though I was not raised in a particularly religious household as I remember – which is always an iffy thing since I am the poster girl for a-historic.

I’m famous for the comment, “I didn’t see that movie,” to the very person who is in the position to say, “Yes you did. We saw it together!” (Now, wouldn’t you think they’d ALSO give you a clue about occasion, their presence or the plot? But then again, why ruin a funny story?)

But back to the prayer. You know, little kids are terrified by that prayer.

“But I don’t want to ask God to die!”
is a response many remember having,
chins quivering.

ADD kids aren’t the ones with that response, however.

What scares ADDers . . .

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The Top 10 “useless” things I’ll never get rid of


Remember – links on this site are dark grey to reduce distraction potential
while you’re reading. They turn red on mouseover
Hover before clicking for more info
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 I Won’t Throw – don’t ask me!

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

If you’re a Professional Organizer or an Interior Decorator,
unless you have ADD,
you might want to hide your eyes!

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ABOUT the Top Tens


Top Ten Lists for FUN (and organization?)

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

Top Ten Lists are pretty much what they sound like —

Quickie sketch of a piece of paper with lines on it - representing the text of top tenslists of 10 items in a particular category that stand out as the top tier of a possible bazillion items for consideration.

Tone generally varies, depending on mood and functional level of the day, as does format.

Some of my Top Tens here on ADD-and-so-much-more will consist of bullet-points without much explanation or context.  Others will be augmented by comments of some sort, and a few will be more like articles with ten points.

Top Tens and ADD brains are made for each other:

Lists with ten items provide the perfect combination of flexibility and structure — with permission to vamp.

(Oh yeah, and because ADD Top Tens are generally written by ADDers, we can’t afford to be too literal about “top” or we’ll be ruminating over the pros and cons of inclusion ad infinitum.)

The subject matter of any particular ADD Top Ten List is limited only by the particular ADD mind of the author (which is like saying “limited by infinity”).

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Top Ten Things . . . I LOVE about having ADD


Lookin’ on the UPside —
overlookin’ the downside

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Another post in the Walking A Mile in Another’s Shoes Series

Cartoon of female face with REALLY broad smile

Having ADD is a mixed bag!  There are VERY many things about it that make me howl in frustration, and more than a few others that make my life difficult to lead.

I’ll bet you can relate!

But ADD gives us some advantages too, and I think its important to remember what it ADDs to our lives — especially when we’re having “one of those days” when our functional temperature is sub-zero!

A little gratitude helps us keep things in perspective.

So here is a list of ten things about my particular flavor of ADD that make me REALLY happy!  I’ll bet you can relate to some of those too!  

Jump on down to the comments section and let me know what you love about YOUR particular flavor of ADD.

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LOL-OFN-Summer 98


Laughing Out LoudLaughing smiley graphic with tongue hanging out
You know you’re ADD when …

Summer ’98

You know you’re ADD when . . .

…you READ the About LOL” post but you can’t remember what it said –
. . .and you’re not sure which season’s LOL’s you’ve read
.  .   .  so you decide you’d BETTER post one of your own in the comments

just so you can track yourself!

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LOL – OFN Fall 96


Cartoon of court jesterLaughing Out Loud
You know you’re ADD when … 

Fall 96

…you publish an online newsletter and the July issue
comes out August 7th  (and you actually think,“CLOSE!”)

…you realize you’ve found THE perfect niche when you attempt to make excuses for the Fall 96 issue’s tardy arrival — and you get more than a few emails saying, in various words, “It was late?”  ~ MGHCoach

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LOL-OFN Summer ’96


Illustration of a jester mask of the kind used on playing cards for the JokerLaughing Out Loud
You know you’re ADD when ...

Summer 96

…you publish an online newsletter and the June issue comes out on July 14th!!! — MGHCoach
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LOL-OFN-Spring 96


Laughing Out Loud
You know you’re ADD when …

Spring 96

You know you’re ADD when

… when you own 257 socks — and can’t find a mate for any of them. SusanS29

…when you KNOW you own 257 mate-less socks because you actually counted every last one of them!  (then you put them carefully away just in case you find the mates in the wash!) —  mgh

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About LOL


Cartoon of Felix the Cat laughing (HA HA actually written above his head at clock position 11:30 and 1:30Laughing Out Loud . . .

you know you’re ADD when . . .

This little ditty began in the early 1990s on the AOL ADD forum, at a time when America on Line was one of the few places with a vital and rapidly growing community of ADDers. JIMAMS, the official leader of the ADD on-line group, was like the Energizer Bunny in his dedication to AOL’s leadership in the ADD online community.

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Menage a Moi


This article is a brief, light-hearted “About Me”
— for something that reads more like a vitae,
CLICK HERE for my Trainer Bio

by ~8darkened8eclipse8 on DeviantArt.com

~8darkened8eclipse8 – DeviantArt.com

The ADD Poster Girl says
Hello World!

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

I’m a fascinating woman.  Really.  I can jump inside my very own brain and fascinate mySELF for HOURS of eternal now (getting in the way of actual accomplishment, but hey, they don’t call me The ADD Poster Girl for no reason).

Mentalist and empath, visionary and myopic, the sanest person I’ve ever met with the craziest life: a self-aware, self-assured stuttering wonder of more-than-a-mess.

drawing of woman's left shoe (high fashion)In the days when I was a New York actor/director, my agent once described me to a casting director as a woman who could probably run Bloomingdales all by herself.  

And I probably could — if only I could find my left shoe — and the keys that were right here in my hand a single step ago . . . and something to wear with the only pair of pants that aren’t in the hamper, since I can’t wear a skirt when I haven’t a solitary pair of stockings without a serious run.

If my mother had married for money instead of love I could have been more than a contender: I’d have a staff. I mean, one besides the gaggle inside my brain, intent on dressing me, feeding me, grooming me, scheduling me, reminding me and amusing me in simulcast.  

I think they drove the butler mad; no one seems to be in charge.

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