Turtlenecks & Wool: Yea or Nay?


Are YOU “sensory defensive”
Do YOUR little quirks & preferences (or those of a loved one)
have a brain-based explanation?

© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
from the Comorbidities Series

Sensory sensitivities

Regular readers already know of my intense disregard for summer. I can’t deal with heat.  Not only am I extremely uncomfortable, practically on the verge of passing out from heatstroke, I seem to lose the ability to think.  My brain wilts.

As October is a week old already – Indian Summer begone! – I am practically giddy as I begin to dig out my woolly turtleneck sweaters and the boots last seen before the weather turned beastly hot.

I am eagerly anticipating the arrival of the day when I can put away ALL my summer clothes and start wearing coats and gloves, swaddling my neck in long wool scarves – venturing out once again, in real clothes designed for grown-up bodies!

Seriously, have you ever really looked at summer clothing?

  • Limp and tattered rags of sweat-drenched cotton passing for tops;
  • Belly-button baring pants, whacked off at fanny level;
  • And shoes that are barely more than soles with straps exposing far too many toes in serious need of some grooming attention.

On the other hand . . .

More than a few people I know are practically in mourning, dreading the coming of the “bone-chilling” season that, for them, has absolutely nothing to recommend it.

  • They hate wearing shoes at all, and boots make them feel like a Budweiser Clydesdale.
  • They can barely breath in turtlenecks and neck scarves.
  • Wool makes them scratch themselves practically bloody.

You might be tempted to believe that we have little in common – but you’d be WRONG.  We are each members of the Sensory Defensive club – at the far ends of the spectrum: heat, for me, and cold for them.

But sensory defensiveness is not confined to temperature.
It can show up in any number of arenas, including:
sound, sight, touch, smell and taste —
as well as vestibular/proprioceptive (position, balance & movement)

What most people don’t understand is that these sensory sensitivities are usually the result of “faulty brain-wiring” — a sensory integration issue.

In addition to many individuals born with ADD, anywhere along the autistic-spectrum, or other individuals with attentional challenges, sensory sensitivities can also be a consequence of brain damage [TBI/ABI], and often accompanies PTSD.

Even some professionals who work with PTSD misunderstand the loud noise/startle response. It may well have a psychologically-based component that triggers flashbacks but, at base, it’s frequently a neurological issue. The sensory integration pathways have often been scrambled and must be healed or reconstructed.

But back to my friends and our clothing preferences

In addition to our shared inability to tolerate certain temperatures (comfortably, or at all), some of my summer-loving buddies seem to have an additional issue to contend with: tactile defensiveness – and that is what this particular article is going to address.

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Tactile Stimulation Differences

Some people have no problem wearing almost anything. Others can’t stand certain textures against their skin, and many are driven crazy by the tags affixed to clothing by law. They simply have to cut them out.

Clip-on tie wearing men have reported feeling strangled when they wear the “regular” type (and not just as a metaphor). More than a few women feel the same way about turtlenecks and neck scarves, and often despise wearing hats – sometimes even gloves!

Some folks can’t abide clothing that restricts movement, even when there is a great deal of Lycra in the fabric. Others find tight, close-fitting clothes oddly comforting – as long as there is enough “stretch” that they can move around freely.

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A mystery solved

Years ago I facilitated a live support group attended by a mother and her teen-aged son. They were both amazed to finally have a reason to explain the stretchy, long-sleeved, skin-tight turtlenecks the son insisted on wearing, even in the summer.

The pressure on his skin calmed his nervous system and helped him focus – even though he didn’t realize what those skin-tight turtlenecks were doing for him.

Lucky for him he didn’t have my heat-sensitivity problem as well!

He was also extremely fortunate that his mother chose not to make a big deal out of what her son chose to wear on his own body – but she always wondered about what seemed to her an oddball preference.

Interesting article for more about proprioception sensitivities:
Tight Fitting Clothing: A Sensory Mystery Unravelled

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Many folks have a similar problem to a lesser degree — they simply don’t like their clothes to “move around.”  They find clothing that slips around on the body annoyingly distracting.

Other folks have the opposite problem — clothing that “hugs the body” is distractingly confining. A strong aversion to turtlenecks and ties is a common manifestation of this processing sensitivity.

Getting to sleep

Many who prefer sleeping in the nude – or kids who insist on sleeping in their underwear – do so because of similar tactile sensitivities, whether they are aware of it or not. Bedding becomes an increasingly important focus when there’s nothing much between you and the sheets!

Many who have trouble with sleep might be surprised to discover that it is tied directly to an element of sensory defensiveness. They tend to be picky about what they are willing to sleep in – as well as what they are willing to sleep under – and on.

Most of us have similarly strong bedding and sleep-wear preferences actually, just not to the same degree as a tactile-defensive. As a result, we frequently allow another factor – cost, availability, or perhaps a partner’s preference – to become more important than making sure we sleep in, on or under our first choices.

Most of us know what we like, but we’ve never taken the time to figure out what it is, exactly, that we like about it — and few of us understand why certain things feel wonderful while others are unacceptably annoying.

“What if you’re receiving the same sensory information as everyone else, but your brain is interpreting it differently?

Then your experience of the world around you will be radically different from everyone else, maybe even painfully so.” ~ Temple Grandin, Autistic Brain

Blankets and Comforters

Oddly enough, many of us find it almost impossible to drift off to sleep when the blankets are light-weight. Those who can say why tend to admit that they feel too vulnerable without a calming, comforting weight grounding them, sort-of tucking them in. (More about weight and pressure coming up in a future article in this Series)

I’ll bet somebody reading this article sleeps under a blanket or two in the summer – perhaps with the air conditioning going full-blast (and somebody else reading barely tolerates that behavior in a loved-one). Now you may find it easier to understand why.

By the way, weighted blankets have been reported to work miracles with depression and anxiety as well as sleep struggles.

Check out: A Natural Approach: Weighted Blankets For Anxiety & Depression

At the opposite end of the spectrum, others can’t get to sleep unless the covers are light weight. They feel too confined – almost imprisoned. Those who have reported that they are also cold-defensive have found down comforters to be a life-altering experience. (There are also light-weight warmth alternatives for those who are allergic to feathers).

Down on Down myself

I longed for a particularly pricey down comforter for years before I felt that I could justify the splurge. It was practically immediately relegated to the role of feather-bed.

I simply couldn’t get to sleep under that thing — way too light and way too hot! Who knew I would turn out to be someone who needed more weight on top to transition into sleep!  So it now goes under me.

Sheet preference

Your choice of bed linen is another area to consider where high-quality sleep is an issue. Different strokes for different folks – and it matters more than we realize.

While Egyptian Cotton is considered the ultimate in luxury, some people need a bit of anti-wrinkle insurance in the fabric. For many of these folks, a wrinkle-resistant, machine wash-and-dry-friendly polyester/cotton blend is a far better choice.

Then there are those individuals who grumble through ironing every single sheet and pillow case. Few of them realize that what helps them drift off to sleep best is the crispness of freshly ironed bedding.

Understandably, they also insist on changing their sheets more often than the rest of us. Many complain about THAT chore too, but they are loathe to stop, “for some reason” they can’t explain. (They can get testy with anyone who encourages them to give up the fight, so don’t even try.)

I’m not particularly tactile-defensive, but I am extremely vulnerable to distractions. I wasted a great deal of money on a set of pricey flannel sheets one year. They seemed like a great idea for winter, especially since I love my cozy flannel pajamas when the weather turns chilly.

It felt almost like sleeping on the soft side of Velcro™ – I stuck to them, or so it seemed. The flannel wrinkles surrounding my entire being really bugged me, and since they also pilled slightly in the wash they were too creepy to sleep on!

I also found satin sheets too “slithery” for me. Others adore them, especially satin pillow cases – which many people with long hair swear results in less breakage and fewer split ends. It has even been claimed that sleeping on a satin pillowcase reduces face wrinkling.

I wouldn’t know about that – I couldn’t STAND the darned things!

Apparently, what we can tolerate when we’re up and moving is greater than what we need to be able to navigate the transition into sleep.

Those of you who are parents of kids who simply won’t stay in bed might want to give some additional consideration to the sheets and comforters you buy for them. That adorable bedding might LOOK great to your child, but s/he probably won’t be aware enough to tell you if those awesome sheets don’t feel so great when they’re trying to drift off to dreamland.

Given that sensory issues aren’t confined to the signals from our skin, pay attention to when any won’t-stay-in-bed problems tend to occur most often. Could the smell of certain fabrics or your laundry detergent be part of the problem – or maybe the only problem?

If your kids also insist on wearing “dirty” clothing, or don’t like it when you change their sheets, it almost certainly is.

Don’t ask them directly – they won’t know how to answer the question. Play a “which smells the best/which feels the best?” game instead. Wash their “best feeling” jammies and bedding in the detergent with the smell they chose to see if that makes a difference before you conclude that there is something else behind their behavior.

“I have been talking and writing about sensory problems for over 20 years, and am still perplexed by many people who do not acknowledge sensory issues and the pain and discomfort they can cause.

A person doesn’t have to be on the autism spectrum to be affected by sensory issues.” ~ Dr. Temple Grandin, The Way I See It

Coming Soon

In articles to come, we’ll take a look at sensory integration problems in other arenas.  One of the most interesting is what was once called scotopic sensitivity, now renamed Irlen Syndrome for the woman who developed a non-pharmaceutical intervention.

Helen Irlen discovered that, when the visual cortex of the brain is getting “scrambled” environmental information, all sorts of visual anomalies and a-typical behavioral issues can result, even with “perfect vision” on many of the current eye tests so STAY TUNED!

And get in touch if you’d like some help with sherlocking trouble spots in your own life or that of a child or partner, and some accountability support while you’re systematizing a few things into habits. I still have a few openings in my coaching schedule, and I’d LOVE to be your coach.

 

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80 Responses to Turtlenecks & Wool: Yea or Nay?

  1. Christy B says:

    There are so many considerations, it’s no wonder that sleep is so elusive for many people! Unlike you, summer is my favorite season as I get cold so easily that I long for heat the rest of the year. I’m going BRRR already and it’s only mid-October 😉 Thanks for the quality, well-researched post, Madelyn. I giggled when you said about being able to wear clothes for “grown bodies” soon ❤

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    • I’m a life-long fan of “dressier” clothing, and summer clothing has never been much of a favorite, even when I was in the acting field and needed to maintain a “hottie body.” SO sorry to read that your weather is already too chilly for you. Ours is JUST getting down to my comfort level. I don’t like to BE cold, but I never mind dressing in layers for warmth. Thanks for ringing in, Christy.
      xx,
      mgh

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  2. Turtle necks yeah! As long as they’re not too constricting 😉. Wool–nah…too scratchy 😳💞

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    • I wear merino wool or cashmere turtlenecks under the scratchier bulky wool sweaters – when it’s cold enough to do so, of course. I also have silk long underwear, so I’m good to go there too. Gotta’ have my wool in the winter.
      xx,
      mgh

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      • Oooh, now that’s totally something I could do 💚💙

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        • Go for it! Works for me. ❤
          xx,
          mgh

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  3. What a riveting article, Madelyn. I can’t bear turtlenecks as they always feel as if someone’s trying to strangle me. I hate the look of satin but I overcome it to be happier going to sleep!

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    • Thanks for taking the time to comment. I actually like the look of satin, just don’t like the way it feels when I’m trying to get to sleep. Oddly, I once had a vintage satin slip dress and a silk-satin fancy lounging pajama set that I loved to wear to parties when I lived in New York in my younger days. Maybe I can overcome the feel as long as I’m standing? 🙂

      I love my turtlenecks, however – especially a beautiful black mid-weight cashmere that my mother wore in college – still lovely and warm (but not hot).

      They made cashmere a lot better back in her day! One I bought for myself a only few years ago is pilling. It wasn’t the most expensive I could have bought, but it took a big enough chunk out of my sweater budget that I thought I was buying for similar posterity. ::sigh::
      xx,
      mgh

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  4. Jennie says:

    Sensory issues are overpowering, yet often overlooked. Tags. They drive me crazy. They drive kids crazy, too. People can’t function with sensory overload. We’re all wonderfully different, and everyone has a sensory sensitivity. Thanks for a terrific post, Madelyn.

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    • Thanks Jennie, for the endorsement and for seconding the points in the article. Observant teachers always know. ❤
      xx,
      mgh

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      • Jennie says:

        You are welcome, Madelyn. We try to know! 🙂

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        • Curiosity, I believe, is one of the required skill sets for a good teacher. Those who “know” always have it, and the best teachers are very creative about passing that trait on to their students. I love reading the many ways that you do so with yours. It’s a wonderful counter-balance for my extreme dismay at the actions of DeVos and chronies (clearly not a fan of theirs, but I AM one of yours).
          xx,
          mgh

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  5. Tina Frisco says:

    Yep, I’m a charter member of the Sensory Defensive club. For me, loud noises are the worst, right up there with sweltering heat. Glaring lights, rancid odors, bitter-tasting, tight clothing and jewelry ~ all make my list unfavorite things. I’m with you, sister! Give me a crisp cool day with a lovely fire in the hearth, and I’m a very happy camper 🙂 💖

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    • Great brains react alike? lol 🙂
      xx,
      mgh

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  6. noelleg44 says:

    Wonderful post, Madelyn. Made me think of all my preferences in terms of clothing. I hate to be encased, prefer loose and comfortable. But I do like my comforter – I like being warm! I need to get this into my writing!

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    • Thanks Noelle. I can see how understanding sensory sensitivities would certainly be a great assist in developing character quirks that could make a character unique. It would be fun to figure out ways in which they might show up in various environments.

      When I was younger, in my heavy dating days, I tolerated “encasement” for the sake of fashion (the thinking behind Spanx – lol) – but as I get older I greatly prefer the comfort of loose and flowy tops and leggings too. I layer for warmth in the winter. Though I prefer being in cooler climes and can’t tolerate hot weather, I don’t like being cold – but not quite the same as being warm. Interesting how human preferences are so different, isn’t it?
      xx,
      mgh

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  7. dgkaye says:

    Autumn, my favorite temps of the year. Turtlenecks. Are you kidding me? I tossed all those at the start of menopause and never have had to look back, lol. And duvets – only one I’ll sleep with is a silk filled duvet. It adjusts to all weather temps, keeps you cool and covered in the summer and warm and cozy in the winter. That’s my speech and I’m stickin’ to it. ❤

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    • ooooo – I’ve never tried a silk-filled duvet. Washable? I can’t do bedding I can’t wash when I must, since Tink sleeps with me. I wish you hadn’t tossed those turtlenecks, however. I’d be happy to take them of your hands.
      xx,
      mgh

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      • dgkaye says:

        Lol, they’re long gone to charities M. But yes, the silk duvet is washable and hang dry (over the shower works). They are much cheaper to obtain if purchased through your local HSN or QVC networks when on special. Lol, I’m the home shopping queen, go figure! 😦 xoxo

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        • Thanks Deb for sharing your shopping expertise. 🙂 I will probably check it out – eventually. I am living pretty close to the bone right now.
          xx,
          mgh

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          • dgkaye says:

            ❤ xx

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  8. ghostmmnc says:

    Your post is so interesting to read, as I can relate to a whole lot of it, especially the parts about the clothing, and bedding preferences. I imagine everyone is a bit different on these. I don’t like cold weather at all, and itchy tags drive me up the wall! 🙂

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    • Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. You are absolutely right – our brains are as unique as our fingerprints (really!) – which results in a unique combination of preferences for every single one of us.

      I’m with you on the tags. I don’t like to BE cold, but I really don’t mind layering for warmth or huddling over a space heater. Once I have DE-layered for heat there’s a limit to how naked I can get. 🙂 If I’m still hot, I’m stuck with it. Can’t WAIT for fall weather to come and stay – even if it means that winter is right behind it.
      xx,
      mgh

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  9. Opher says:

    I’m allergic to cold and itchy materials and I’ve noticed that I appear to be allergic to large quantities of alcohol.
    Lots of people have told me that I need my brain rewiring.

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    • Thanks for reading and ringing in, Opher. Everybody hates “itchy” materials – but what we find itchy is person-specific, depending on how our brains are wired. Ditto “cold” and “hot,” given reasonable limits.

      NOW, once you get that brain rewire I hope you’ll share your secret with the rest of us – lol. I read somewhere once that a healthy metabolism cannot tolerate alcohol – so maybe that particular allergy is not such a bad thing? 🙂
      xx,
      mgh

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  10. This is a truly interesting post, Madelyn.
    I feel the same about summer. But I abhor snow… so I’d rather have the warm weather.
    And I need sunlight to keep my spirits up — and there is less of it in winter. Yet fall clothes are much more fun than summer clothes! 😀
    I’ve always been really hot at night — but still need the comfort of a sheet. Forget blankets though… (My dad was that way too. And my ex used to rant that my skin got so hot at night that it burned him.) So winter is good sleeping weather at least…
    Okay… that was a stream of nonsense. Have a good new week. Hugs.

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    • Thanks, Teagan. There’s an article in my queue about what is often behind our individual responses to light – along with an explanation of ONE potential intervention that works for a generous percentage of folks with “winter blues.”

      I sleep hot as well – especially since my current landlord seems to have zero intention of making good on their promise to put a ceiling fan in my bedroom and living room when I took the apartment (there’s not even a light fixture there — still!!)

      The apartment is great (the “shell”) but Gaslight Management is beyond LOUSY with even basic maintenance — even something as simple as trash management. (Have been complaining regularly since MAY to no avail).

      I’m extremely out of sorts about it today because I was “promised” on Saturday that they would at least replace the light in the entry and deal with the trash YESTERDAY, and at almost 7PM pm today (Monday) it still has not been done. I pay luxury rent for a slumlord abode and can’t afford to move at present.

      They do a FaceBook “contest” where a good review puts you in the pot for a month’s free rent. Slimy, huh? I don’t have the guts to leave an accurate review until I’m packed and ready to go, but I’m hoping that maybe Google will pick up the name if anybody else is thinking of moving in.

      Thanks for giving me the chance to vent. And NOW, as soon as I call them again, I’m moving on to something more pleasant. At least I can be grateful I’m not standing in 3 feet of water, right? (higher vibration) 🙂
      xx,
      mgh

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      • Dear Madelyn, feel free to vent with me any time. But first, please don’t discount, diminish, or dismiss your own problems by saying “at least…” I know you wouldn’t do that to someone else, so be as good to yourself.
        “I pay luxury rent for a slumlord abode” that’s my story too. The place has not been updated since the 70s (according to property management). The landlord is a self-entitled trust fund brat who thought *I* would upgrade the property. Seriously. I’ve been here since 2009, never ever late with a single rent payment. You’d think she’d show appreciation in some way. Can you imagine toilet seats and tile-grout that have been used since the 70s? I’ve literally scrubbed the surface off the toilet seat. And do I expect to get my deposit back when I finally escape from this town? Yeah right. Okay… that’s enough of my vent.
        More hugs.

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        • Whew! Sadly, it makes me feel a bit better that you truly understand my situation, even though I am SO sorry about it (and truly grateful, given so many homeless storm survivors, to have a roof over my head at all). But I am still angry – and entitled to hold their feet to the fire.

          I man I know just moved to Ft. Lauderdale (a high rent city in Florida). He pays LESS that I do for a large and beautiful apartment with a huge walk in closet, modern appliances (including a dishwasher and his own clothes washer & dryer – neither of which I have here) in a complex with a pool (which his balcony overlooks), gym, etc.

          But here’s the real kicker – ALL he has to do is set his trash right outside his very own apartment door at night. Maintenance picks it up before he leaves for work, every single morning.

          GASLIGHT can’t even handle moving the communal trash and recycling cans in the back of the building to the front curb for pickup **once a week** (when they remember to replace them so we can fill them up again) They have only gotten them back where they go ONCE since May – because I happened to be outside to supervise. They left with a promise to locate our missing recycling can – which hasn’t happed STILL.

          I could go ON (and on) but I won’t.

          And NO, you never get your deposit back, in my lifelong experience as a renter, EVEN when you leave it pristine (so no wonder people usually don’t!)

          In NYC at least they are honest about it. It is referred to as KEY MONEY (what you pay for them to give you the key instead of somebody else). You also pay first and last month’s rent, which most people use for their move-out month, since it takes longer than that for a landlord to evict you.

          HUGS back to you. May we both find windfalls (or wonderful jobs with great paychecks), so that we can upgrade SOON!
          xx,
          mgh

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  11. Thank you for this wonderful post. So much to learn about. Michael

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    • Thank YOU for reading and leaving a comment, Michael – AS WELL AS reblogging. You’re a doll!
      xx,
      mgh

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  12. Reblogged this on Die Erste Eslarner Zeitung – Aus und über Eslarn, sowie die bayerisch-tschechische Region!.

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    • Woo hoo – another reblog from the wonderful Michael. I truly appreciate you help spreading the word.
      xx,
      mgh

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      • Hello, thank you for the information. Its very interesting. Sorry, last week i lost control over the WP-Reader. Michael

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        • SO sorry that happened to you (WordPress glitches can be SO annoying!), but please don’t feel you must apologize to ME. You are one of my biggest supporters, Michael, and I don’t take that for granted or expect you to always be able to reblog.

          I TRULY appreciate the reblog on this one, and I hope that your Reader (and everything else) is working fine and dandy now.
          xx,
          mgh

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          • Hi Madelyn! Thx, yes at time its all fine with the system. Waiting on the next crash LOL “Murphys Law is calling” 😉

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            • Yeah – Murphy keeps us all on our toes. Personally, I wish he’d go live on some island somewhere far away from the rest of us and take a very long vacation. 🙂
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Lets hope, or i will shoot em. LOL

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            • LOL – well deserved!
              xx,
              mgh

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  13. As always, I am so very, very impressed by your comprehensive and generous posts…it would be amazing if you had your own tv or radio show as well…the world needs more of what you share….I am in awe of your brilliance and beautiful way of communicating and addressing issues/perspectives–so inclusive. Thanks for sharing your gifts, my friend 🙂

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    • I would LOVE to have my own call-in show (radio, so I didn’t have to spackle – lol). And your lovely comment has made my day. Thank you so very much for taking the time to read and respond with a few specifics about what works for you. It is the wind beneath my wings.

      AND, of course, I love it when that “b” word is aimed my way. What it really represents is sharing TONS of experience with oopses and my attempts to figure out why, go another way, and share what I’ve learned.
      xx,
      mgh

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  14. Reblogged this on Words To Captivate ~ by John Fioravanti and commented:
    Madelyn Griffith-Haynie talks about sensory sensitivities as having their roots in the way the brain is wired – fascinating reading!

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    • Thank you for the reblog with the lovely intro, John. I find all this brain-stuff fascinating as well – and sharing what I learn makes me feel good.

      Somebody like YOU sharing what I’ve learned makes me feel GREAT! Thank you.
      xx,
      mgh

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      • Like ME? You bend over backward to help people understand important issues about the mind – I just share them.

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        • Very sweet comment, John. I LIVE to share what I know, but speaking of back-bends, I suppose you just toss of those history posts in a moment or two? NOT!
          xx,
          mgh

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          • Actually, the history posts take about three moments – four on a tough day! Hugs!

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            • NO way! I can’t even cut, paste and format in three to four minutes!
              xx,
              mgh

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            • An exaggeration! How long is a moment?

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            • Arncha’ clever?! It is all relative, I suppose – but even I have a good enough sense of time to pick out the blogging disparity (which is unusual in itself, since time is generally all NOW and NOT Now in my brain). 🙂
              xx,
              mgh

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  15. -Eugenia says:

    Different strokes for different folks and I love this post. I love winter clothes because I feel they are more stylish. Of course, as you and I have discussed before, we prefer the cooler temps.

    I have sensitive skin and prefer softness. I like to layer clothes because you can add to or take off to adjust to the temp swings.

    Have a great week, Madelyn!

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  16. colinandray says:

    Sleeping? Hate pj’s, simply because when I roll over (and I do it a lot), the pj’s don’t roll with me. Brushed cotton is a problem as it sets my fingers on edge when I touch it. If I have brushed cotton against my skin, I get a rash. Definite allergic reaction to some chemical eh! Other than that… life is pretty good! 🙂

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    • I can do pj’s but not nightgowns, Colin. Unless it is very, very cold in the room (as in, no heat in the winter so I hunker down and barely move), I get totally tangled. I have never heard of a skin allergy to brushed cotton before – so sorry. Gotta be the chemicals it was bathed in (or perhaps your laundry detergent doesn’t rinse out completely in this fiber?). In any case, if that’s the worst of it in your corner of the universe, I’m thrilled for you.
      xx, mgh

      Hi to Ray – woof! TINK

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  17. This was a fascinating read, M. My first response was NO and NO to both wool (itchy) and turtlenecks (too warm). There was a comedian who claimed that turtlenecks are like “being strangled by a really weak person”.

    I like to sleep cool/almost cold. Haven’t worn PJ’s since childhood when we had no upstairs heat vents and a feather bed. But, I must say, I sleep so much better in the cool months under those comforters, and except for the laundry, I’d change my sheets every day. What an eye opener this post is…my family is so different, all in unique ways. Thanks for this one.

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    • lol – “strangled by a really weak person” I prefer cowl necks (looser), but some of my turtlenecks feel pretty darned comfy to my brain.

      I’m with you on sleeping cool/almost cold (and so is science, btw, which doesn’t mean that it is the most comforting for ALL!) Most folks don’t realize that our brains are as unique as our fingerprints, so it’s no surprise that the humans carrying them around would be different.

      Thanks for reading and taking time to leave a comment.
      xx,
      mgh

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  18. Yes. Yes. Yes. Stop writing about me! And yes! (Snort with laughter) I am a big fan of all things flannel until my disability. Had to give up the sheets due to Velcro. Couldn’t roll over. Try a decent thread count cotton. I started with 500 the first time then 600. They are warm during winter. And some 5 years later my 500’s are cooler. I’m now due new sheets. Best investment ever when on special. Cheers,H

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  19. blondieaka says:

    Interesting and I thought I was normal…lol…Egyptian cotton sheets, if I could, would be changed daily…I only wear bare feet or flip flips, cotton clothing, no jewellery apart for earings and have no desire to ever be cold again and have to button up because my skin has never been better and my sleep pattern is head, pillow, die and with the least amount of covering I only use the sheet if it gets a tad cold in the early hours and it wakes me. That’s pretty normal, isn’t it???? Carol xx

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    • lol – CAROL normal anyway. 🙂 How we are “wired” up there in our heads seems to have more to do with our preferences than we ever imagined.
      xx,
      mgh

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      • blondieaka says:

        Ha Ha ..How to define “Normal” …That would be a post and a half…. Carol xx

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        • Easily! I’ve always believed that as long as small children smiled at me – or at least didn’t run away screaming – I passed. “Passing” is about as close as I come. 🙂
          xx,
          mgh

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          • blondieaka says:

            Ha Ha..me too x

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            • Great minds????
              xx, mgh

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  20. Lucy Brazier says:

    This is amazing! I am never happier than when wearing a cozy onsie, encased from the neck down in fluffy warmth. In bed I like a bit, thick duvet and my feet sticking out the side (even in winter!) I just can’t sleep without cold feet. Bring on the autumn!
    xx

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    • Incredible to learn how we’re put together, isn’t it? All kinds of preferences and quirks we like to think of as “just us” are actually due to how our brains are wired. The more I learn, the more I’m fascinated.
      xx,
      mgh

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      • Lucy Brazier says:

        It is indeed fascinating! It just goes to show that no one is really ‘strange’, we are all just wired differently.
        xx

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        • Yep – well said! But then you ARE the wizard with words.
          xx,
          mgh

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  21. I completely agree with this post so well written, Madelyn and our Indian summers are totally maddening we hardly have cold weather. It is sickening and nowadays with pollutions the heat is mind crazy. It is so nice to have winters but I do not think ever we will have in Mumbai. Loved your beautiful post. Never knew so many things but you have explained it so meticulously.

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    • Thank you SO much, Kamal. Did you see my warning about Bloglovin stealing entire blogsites? Upper right side of my site – and worth knowing about it.
      xx,
      mgh

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      • Oh ya I just saw good you told me to do so. Horrible, Madelyn who is doing that it is shocking.

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        • Apparently they refuse to take them down. Laina describes it all on her blog and in the comments. Hateful site!
          xx,
          mgh

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          • Yes Madelyn can surely understand and in this world we have people like that. Ya some sites are like that.

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            • As long as people are aware and don’t support that nonsense without understanding that they ARE, it is up to them what they choose to do, of course.

              I choose to spread the word and never again click to one of their pages. Stealing somebody else’s hard work is wrong. Period.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • I absolutely support you on this Madelyn and yes stealing from our hard work, it is a shame. They randomly do so with all our posts.

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            • Thanks, Kamal. You are so right – it is a SHAME — theirs.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Welcome dear Madelyn.

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            • And NOW, good night my sweet friend on the other side of the world!
              xx, my

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            • Good night dear sleep well with your little Tink. Sweet dreams.

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            • Thank you. Tink sends his woofs to Amber and hopes you both have a wonderful day – we’re off to dreamland.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Great enjoy dreaming

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  22. I had no clue that there is a reason behind … I have to admit that I’m no summer fan and I hear you for this indian summer thing… it is cold in the morning and you sweat like a horse around noon… no wonder that this time gives us colds and we feel totally uncomfy…

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    • PERFECT description. Can’t stand it, personally – and it’s impossible to dress for.
      xx,
      mgh

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