Reaching the Boiling Point

We still have some time
but we have to act – NOW

© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Reflections from the Executive Functioning Series

The content I am revisiting is an edited & condensed version of
probably the most important information I have ever shared
(in over 500 information-dense articles).
It applies to every single person living.
I hope those of you who missed it on Monday will
take the time to read it all this weekend – and tell your friends.

ABOUT Boiling Frog Syndrome

In a recently posted article from the Executive Functioning Series [How well do you REALLY function?], I explored the tendency to accommodate an accumulation of difficulties until we are struggling to cope and practically desperate — whenever things decline gradually.


The water temperature is perilously close to reaching the boiling point where global health is concerned.

We are ALL likely to be cooked to death if we don’t act together to turn down the heat – no matter how young or old we are currently.

According to U.S. statistics, in 1960 5% of the GDP** was spent on health care.

By 2010, that figure had increased to 18%
  over three and a half times higher —
and continues to increase.

It is projected that by the year 2040 — unless things change significantly — over 40% of the gross GDP** of the US alone will go into health care.

**GDP [Gross Domestic Product] is the total value of everything produced by all the
individuals, companies and corporations in a country, citizen and foreign-owned alike.
It is considered to be the best way to measure the state of a country’s economy.

This is obviously a problem we cannot possibly afford

An unusually large portion of our health expenditures come as a result of the chronic, progressive “diseases of old age” — that become exponentially more prevalent the longer we live, and that become increasingly more expensive to manage (vs. cure, since we currently don’t have ways to cure them).

Yet we currently dedicate only a fraction of 1% of our biomedical research budget to the basic biology of aging — and millions of dollars of budget cuts are currently in the planning stages in the US alone.

DAUNTING Statistics Already

100,000 people die of old age-related illnesses every single day.  That’s over THIRTY World Trade Towers, by the way, just to put it in context.

Every single day.

Frailty alone kills 6-7% of the population and leads to many of the other debilitating diseases which increase dramatically in the over-45 population (yes, forty-five!)

The bad news is that if we live long enough — without a drastic change in how we approach health-science research — most of us WILL be challenged by one or more of the debilitating and costly degenerative illnesses.

Getting rapidly worse

According to the UN, the population of elderly human beings is the fastest growing around the world, and the number of elderly people by 2050 will be close to 2 BILLION.

MOST of us reading will be among them – any of us who have not already succumbed to one of the diseases of aging, that is.

We need to turn things around – NOW!

By the year 2020 – in the entire world – there will be more people over 65 than under 5 years of age. As the 5 year olds enter the workforce, those who are now 65 become 75 and 85 and begin to become terminally ill.

We won’t have enough people on the planet
to afford this ailing and aging population.

By overcoming the diseases of aging, we can literally save trillions of dollars
— along with millions of lives that are now doomed to suffer as they die.

~ ‪Liz Parrish, CEO of BioViva Sciences USA – Human of the Future‬ (video)


Most of us are suffering from Boiling Frog Syndrome over the issue of healthy aging, refusing to give it the consideration it merits.

That manifests in our lack of willingness to advocate aggressively for resources to address the many challenges of aging that the clear majority of us WILL face before we die.

Our most important health-related goal needs to be applying our resources to solve the global challenge of remaining as healthy as possible for as long as possible – for as many people as possible.

“One of the biggest frustrations for me in my work is that old people don’t complain enough about how GRIM it is to be old — and if they did, maybe something more would be done about it.” ~ biomedical gerontologist ‪Dr. Aubrey de Grey‬.

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This is NOT a political issue.
It’s a humanitarian and financial responsibility issue.

Start by dedicating some time to read the entire post HERE.

More to come

In Monday’s post we’ll explore more about Executive Functioning struggles and their implications, along with what’s needed to learn to swim with the current, so stay tuned. Getting real about what’s going on just might allow you to let yourself reach out for help.

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We all owe you bigtime appreciation for spreading the word about this vital issue.  It is essential that we act now to band together to insist on more FUNDING — before we are chasing a health problem of pandemic proportions.

We will have little hope of gathering the funding needed for research and prevention if we wait until 40% of our gross GDP goes into caring for the sick and dying.

Meanwhile, as Sally Cronin said in introduction to her reblog:

It is not only for our own benefit that we need to take more responsibility for our health as we get older.

The cost of taking care of us as we accumulate illnesses associated with old age is going to cripple the health services for the generations coming along behind us. We need to get a grip.

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About Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
Award-winning ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching field co-founder; [life] Coaching pioneer -- Neurodiversity Advocate, Coach, Mentor & Poster Girl -- Multi-Certified -- 25 years working with EFD [Executive Functioning disorders] and struggles in hundreds of people from all walks of life. I developed and delivered the world's first ADD-specific coach training curriculum: multi-year, brain-based, and ICF Certification tracked. In addition to my expertise in ADD/EF Systems Development Coaching, I am known for training and mentoring globally well-informed ADD Coach LEADERS with the vision to innovate, many of the most visible, knowledgeable and successful ADD Coaches in the field today (several of whom now deliver highly visible ADD coach trainings themselves). For almost a decade, I personally sponsored and facilitated seven monthly, virtual and global, no-charge support and information groups The ADD Hours™ - including The ADD Expert Speakers Series, hosting well-known ADD Professionals who were generous with their information and expertise, joining me in my belief that "It takes a village to educate a world." I am committed to being a thorn in the side of ADD-ignorance in service of changing the way neurodiversity is thought about and treated - seeing "a world that works for everyone" in my lifetime. Get in touch when you're ready to have a life that works BECAUSE of who you are, building on strengths to step off that frustrating treadmill "when 'wanting to' just doesn't get it DONE!"

44 Responses to Reaching the Boiling Point

  1. Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
    Another post from Madelyn Griffith-Haynie on dealing with the issues of old age. There needs to be more research into age related disease as Madelyn stresses and we also have to take more responsibility for our health.. stop eating garbage and give the body what it needs to do what it needs to do.. People have an assumption that it does not matter what we do because there will be a health service there to pick up the pieces in the future.. not true…get fit now and keep fit. Excellent article and needs to be read.

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    • Bless you, Sally, for continuing to spread the word about this issue.

      This info is SO under-realized by almost everyone I’ve spoken to in my non-virtual life – most have never even given it a thought. I have to assume that few of my virtual friends are aware of the serious problems we are facing either.

      It’s essential that we ALL become aware while there’s still time to *DO* something about it (besides suffer as we die, of course).

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  2. dgkaye says:

    Fantastic awareness article Madelyn. Loved the cartoon, it actually did ‘him’ justice 😦 Shared across all my social sites. ❤

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  3. One more thing I’ll add about getting older is losing support systems. Most of my family and friends have died so I’m pretty much alone. Not having anyone to help you as you get sick and age has become a problem for me. I also need someone to drive me to and from my brother’s Group Home so I can watch them.

    Another problem is because I’m still working it is nearly impossible to get doctor’s appts on my days off. Doctors always expect you to be available at the drop of a hat which with my job just won’t work. I was supposed to get a physical back in March. I tried to set up an appt during my vacation week. It did not happen. And as a result unless doctors go along with my schedule I will not be getting any physicals for 2017 or beyond.

    The only time I’ve used my personal and sick days is for the eye doctor because I need to see to work. Unless I’m in extreme pain or distress my relationships with doctors will die on the vine. I’m also supposed to get a colonoscopy this year but those two huge problems of not having anyone to go with me or pick me up. My Dad died of colon cancer in May 1995.

    However since western medicine refuses to cooperate with me I’m not going to cooperate with them. They want you to risk your job and your paycheck for a series of medical visits that accomplish nothing. I will say that I was happy with my eye doctor. My vision loss is not spreading. As long as I can see something I’m happy. I have no expectations for better or improvement.
    mgh added white space for readability for those who struggle with longer strings of text; words unchanged

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    • Support systems are essential – and many people *never* had family of origin support. Our modern way of living is lousy for health, actually — since community is SO important to mental and physical health — and far beyond rides and care-taking once something goes wrong.

      I share your frustrations with the access problem in the medical profession. It could be improved substantially by shifting the “weekend” (being available on Saturday, for example, and taking Wednesday’s off) — and reserving at least half of those weekend appointment times for working adults. In group practices, at least one doctor is surely more of a night owl. How about having them come in at, say 2PM, staying until 10, instead of the 9-5 schedule?

      THEN we have to take a look at insurance reimbursements – despicable industry, IMHO. “15 minute” appointments are a BIG part of the problem – but doctors can’t get PAID if they spend more time. So you have to make multiple appointments – traveling to and from work every single time.

      At least HALF of the “blame” must go to employers, however. They would do well to encourage their employees to remain healthy, in sharp contrast to making them fear that they will be let go if they take time off for preventative doctor’s visits. They could shift work hours as well (or work with comp time vs overtime).

      9-5 is simply NUTS in today’s worldespecially in a 24-hour city like NY.

      I’m glad to read that your vision is stable BUT, my love, please don’t cut off your own nose to spite your other doctors faces.


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  5. WOW, “100,000 people die of old age-related illnesses every single day.” That is staggering.

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  6. John Fioravanti says:

    Reblogged this on Words To Captivate ~ by John Fioravanti and commented:
    As a follow-up, Madelyn Griffith-Haynie presents some frightening statistics about age-related diseases now and projections into the future. This cannot be ignored by ANY of us! Please, read on…

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  7. John Fioravanti says:

    Again, an excellent article, Madelyn – pretty scary statistics. Thank you!

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    • I know – the statistics scare the pants off ME as well. But it can be turned around if we take action NOW.

      Thanks for continuing to spread the word – because politicians only *follow* public opinion – they are too concerned with getting re-elected to LEAD.

      MANY more people need to be aware of what WILL happen if we don’t take actions to prevent it – so thanks for helping the gerontologists get some traction on this issue.

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  8. Christy B says:

    It’s certainly easier to stick our head into the sand but NOT the answer. I won’t be the “idiot” in that cartoon in your post!

    Liked by 1 person

    • YAY! That is just what I hoped to inspire.

      I was floored when I only recently learned of this issue, Christy – despite the reality that the gerontologists have been beating this drum for over a decade.

      Too few people are aware of the problem facing many RIGHT NOW – and all of us in an eyeblink, unless we all take steps, help them spread the word, and *insist* on FUNDING.

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  9. Unfortunately many people do not take good care of their health till it is too late. The cost of healthcare here in Ireland has soared yet so many people still want to pop pills instead of changing their lifestyle…

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    • Good point, and true for many, but the degenerative diseases of aging that are most concerning seem to be a direct *result* of the process of aging itself – no respecter of prior healthcare, statistically. Those are the ones that are most concerning (and most costly) – and science wants to understand why people waste away, EVEN if they’ve taken care.

      Many of us can remain healthy for LONGER if we take care, and *some* of us remain healthy until almost the very end and suffer for a shorter period before we die (counted in weeks instead of years) — but not ALL, it merely increases the odds. That’s a tough sell – especially when we’ve all seen stories of people 80-90-100 who drank and smoked all their lives, etc. and are still going strong.

      PLUS, what “taking care” means has changed over the years BECAUSE we don’t have definitive science — i.e., never eat this, NO eat lots, it protects you against such and such — now carbs are bad/protein is good (used to be flip-flopped) and so on.

      The many who WANT to take care of themselves and believe they DO have been mislead many times by “official” recommendations driven by food lobbies BECAUSE organizations have been using “promoted logic” rather than scientific findings to devise the darned things.

      Logic dictates *some* things – obesity is lousy for your health, for example, and sets you up for many diseases. But we don’t know how that works yet. As only one example, some people must practically starve themselves to maintain a healthy weight and pile on the pounds when they don’t (confirmed by researchers, btw – they aren’t sneaking food).

      Its a complicated issue – but the advice to take good care over a lifetime is still our best bet. Research funding could make it less of a gamble.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. MUCH appreciated.

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  10. -Eugenia says:

    Very timely, Madelyn. I seems there is too much red tape to deal with in order to take care of the real concerns. It’s a matter of living in the now, but how?


    • The problem I see is the desperate need for balance, Eugenia – more of us living for today WHILE we gather information and take actions to protect our future.

      Unfortunately, too many “positivity” folks seem to promote what looks to me more like denial — “if we refuse to think about it, it can’t touch us.” Unfortunately, it CAN.

      Thanks so much for reading and ringing in.


  11. agreed… no more waiting, the time is now…


  12. I agree with you 100% and on all points. I understand what it is to fight for health care because I’ve been fighting for better care for my brother Stephen who has Autism. The Direct Care workers who assist him with daily living activities get paid less that Fast Food Workers. Often when I call his group home there is a staff shortage.

    After a while my life was becoming a nightmare. I’ve called all types of politicians and whoever else I can think of to remedy the problem but just like health care for the elderly it is likely to get much worse. I’ve been in contact with every agency and organization in the state of New York in regards to the care and treatment of developmentally disabled citizens to no avail. The best I can do now is to try to be on top of things as much as I can while I’m working a more than full-time job.

    The battle overwhelmed me. After a while I had to tell God I can’t do this anymore. Basically now I just live for today and hope for the best. I’ve failed at fixing my own health problems and I’m barely keeping up being a good sister to Stephen. It’s all so overwhelming and depressing. It has gotten to the point where my bosses and co-workers are telling me to go away, get out of town and do something for me. I know if I dwell on any health care situation including my own I won’t live to retire so I just have to block everything out.


    • You’ve already done SO much more advocacy than most (and right where is counts) – and God Bless You for that! The relatively few of us who advocate need HELP to spread these messages to the folks who can DO something to change the sad realities of *millions* of people – and millions more in the future.

      If everyone reading would take the time to send an email to his or her political representatives – or make even ONE phone call – and spread the word, encouraging their friends to do the same, together we could change the situation.

      That’s what I hope to inspire – along with getting people aware and talking about this issue – and spreading the news. YOU are not someone who needs to be nudged to take a stand, that’s for sure.

      Of COURSE you need to take care of your own health and reduce your stress levels. I GET how much time advocacy can take, more than most – my own life has been limited in substantial ways to do so myself (and I’m not taking care of an autistic brother!) I ring in with your bosses and co-workers: go away, get out of town and do something for YOU.

      Thanks again for your reblog of the longer article, btw. I really appreciate it. So will the rest of the world once enough of them finally get the news and get the message. SOON, I pray.


  13. Fascinating article, Madelyn. Over population also plays a large role in these unfortunate facts but there is no short-term solution to that particular problem.

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    • I’m glad you think so, Robbie. De Gray counters the population concern quite well in many of the videos of his talks and interviews – that’s an “objection” he gets a lot.

      LOVED Michael’s poem about the animals, btw. Read it on Sal’s blog but am way behind on comments. What a sweet kid you’re raising!

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