How well do you REALLY function?


Soldiering ON with less
than Optimal Functioning™
when we could REALLY have a much easier time of it

© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
part of the Executive Functioning Series
May is Mental Health Awareness Month!

Do you suffer from boiling frog syndrome?

You’ve probably already heard the story about cooking frogs by putting them in cold or tepid water, then slowly bringing it to a boil — even though they would have jumped out immediately if they were suddenly thrust into hot water.

Other versions of the story assert that, as long as the temperature increases slowly, the frog is able to adjust its body temperature to remain comfortable — until it ultimately becomes too weak to jump out before it’s cooked.

Just a myth, but apt

According to an interesting article on Wikipedia, neither version is true, but the analogy is perfect: as things slowly but steadily worsen, most of us adjust and accommodate, even when we could find ourselves in much better situations if we’d only react more quickly and reach out for help.

  • In my 25+ year coaching career, only a rare few individuals ever reached out for help or brain-based information until they were practically desperate, and almost all had been leading what I call “limp-along lives” for years.
  • More than a few had been taking pricey vacations or eating lunches in restaurants to get away from the stress of the work environment, or indulging in daily caffeine fixes at several dollars a pop, still convinced that they couldn’t afford coaching fees — until they felt they “had no choice.”

For YEARS it only made sense in the context of Boiling Frog Syndrome.

Even if they were cracker-jack “over-achievers” when they were younger, they contributed their functional and cognitive slow-down to aging
. . .  or the demands of parenthood
. . . or the increasing complexities of modern life
. . . or the rise of social media expectations

. . . or anything other than being flat-out worn down by repeated, unrecognized struggles with Executive Functioning they never understood how to overcome.

So What Goes Wrong?

It’s mentally and physically exhausting to continue to swim upstream.

  • As long as you are swimming with the current you get carried downstream with much less thrashing about on your part.
  • Not only that, when you’re swimming upstream, if you stop stroking for even a minute, your life goes backwards.  Nobody can keep up that kind of effort.
  • Before you realize it you are swimming alone, unhappy that life is so much work, but not really expecting it to be easier because you’ve always had to “work twice as hard for half as much” — or so it seems to you in your most private of thoughts.
  • You begin to believe that everybody struggles in the same fashion, but suspect that the others are somehow better able to cope than you are.

But it doesn’t have to be that way

It recently occurred to me that many people don’t reach out for help, perhaps, because they have forgotten (or have never really known) what effective focus and follow-through look like.

They’re falling victim to “that happens to everybody”
or “this is the best I can expect from myself” thinking
to explain and attempt to accept their various challenges.

Things can get WORSE as time goes by . . .

because each new skill must build on the ones before it.

If you never learned to add or subtract, multiplication and division would remain a mystery.

If you never really mastered basic arithmetic, how could anyone expect you to do well as you moved through school?

Similar to moving from basic arithmetic to higher math, learning how to manage life’s many challenges is also an incremental, multi-stepped process.

So, for the next few Mondays, I am going to detail the problems many of my clients had been putting up with because ““that happens to everybody,” and do my best to explain what’s behind the struggle — in the hopes that I will finally inspire more of you to spend a few months working with me to turn things around before you feel like you are about to crash and burn.

Lets START by taking a look at some of the problems
that are NOT “normal” functioning.

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Manifestations of executive functioning struggles

Executive functioning challenges can produce a wide range of symptoms in wide variety of individuals — as well as in the same individual in various environments, at various times, or as they age.

This, in turn, results in a variety of other problems in areas that are impacted by the lack of top notch cognition.

SO REMEMBER as you read: very few individuals exhibit everything on the list below, and almost all of them will experience additional struggles with things that aren’t listed at all — more challenging than they need to be.

Depending on which EF challenges are the strongest (as well as how important they are to the initiation or completion of any particular task), you might see any number of the problems below.

They will show up in the guise of varying types of troubling situations for you and those around you – ongoing challenges with Executive Functions that could certainly be improved with a little information and and a bit of help developing work-arounds and new habits.

(CLICK HERE for a prior list by type of task)

  • Difficulty making decisions
    (For example, stuck in the “research” phase or avoiding/delaying decision-intensive tasks, etc.)
  • Struggles getting started, or figuring out WHERE to begin
    (Trouble seeing the main idea or the task objective; easily overwhelmed attempting to chunk tasks into smaller, more manageable sub-tasks and/or figure out which to do first, needlessly over-complicating,etc.)
  • Trouble switching gears — with transitions of various types
    (Sleep/wake, work/home, chores/leisure time, etc. — switching from one activity to another)
  • Inability to stick to a plan or activity – and/or – inability to abandon it (even with the awareness of potential penalties for getting off schedule)
  • Micro/Macro issues –
    (Moderate ability to focus on small details and/or on the overall picture, with low ability to track both in tandem, or to switch between them in response to task demands)

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  • Task pacing fluctuations – troubles maintaining timing-appropriate attention to detail
    (Rushing through tasks that require more detailed attention, or obsessing over details so that deadlines are missed and other projects ignored)
  • Limited self-awareness and low ability to self-evaluate.
    (Impaired self-monitoring abilities: may believe they are doing poorly when they are on-track, or doing well when they are not; unaware consciously that they’ve wandered off-task, lacking a clear understanding of their need to check their level of engagement or their work)

  • Difficulties incorporating feedback
    (Lack of understanding about what they are supposed to DO with the feedback, frequently defensive, sometimes oppositional, often troubles with accepting what they believe is negative feedback, overreacting to perceived injustices or problems getting started on a task – or finishing it when something upsets them.)
  • Overfocusing — Cognitive inflexibility and black and white thinking
    (Seeming inability to change course when a specific strategy or plan isn’t working – lack of awareness of alternate possibilities – or objections to trying something new, different, or unfamiliar)
  • Trouble sustaining attention on tasks, instructions, feedback, or even everyday conversations
    (Easily distracted, losing train of thought or thread of conversation with interruptions, or registering only the first or last thing said – missing modifiers like “don’t” or “never;” needing to be told task or locational directions many times before they “stick”)
  • Difficulties finding the words to explain their experience
    (Needing help processing – or prompting to be able to describe – what something feels/sounds/looks like – or explaining what it is they need help understanding)
  • Inability or difficulty thinking about or doing more than one thing at a time effectively
    (Yet frequently resistant to doing only one thing at a time, chronically multi-tasking with little to no awareness of the negative impact on the ability to focus to complete tasks effectively)

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  • Problems organizing or keeping track of things
    (including information)
  • Remembering or recalling information best in a specific manner, otherwise struggling to retain it
    (For example, requiring specific cues like acronyms or mnemonics, or remembering information primarily when they have personally repeated each step aloud –  or written them all down, or read over them on a typed list, etc.)
  • Insistent on – or picky about – seemingly “extraneous” things as necessary to task initiation or completion
    (For example, typed instructions vs. neatly hand-written, fountain pen vs. ballpoint, college-ruled paper only – or never, etc.)

Little Problems become Bigger Problems

These issues, in and of themselves are not the problem, especially when taken one by one, even when they show up in a more pervasive manner, as with many individuals in the autism spectrum community.

  • The problem is the steady drip-drip-drip of their cumulative impact on life.
  • The problem is how much additional time it takes to handle details appropriately or recover from chronic oopses.
  • The problem is magnified when you aren’t fully aware that you have a problem with Executive Functioning.
  • The BIG problem comes when you don’t know how to get what you need, or have difficulty insisting upon it for fear of making waves over what seems like such a little detail but is actually a significant problem for you.

More to come

In future posts we’ll explore more about Executive Functioning struggles and their implications, along with what’s needed to learn to swim with the current, so stay tuned. Getting real about what’s going on just might allow you to let yourself reach out for help.

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About Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
Award-winning ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching field co-founder; [life] Coaching pioneer -- Neurodiversity Advocate, Coach, Mentor & Poster Girl -- Multi-Certified -- 25 years working with EFD [Executive Functioning disorders] and struggles in hundreds of people from all walks of life. I developed and delivered the world's first ADD-specific coach training curriculum: multi-year, brain-based, and ICF Certification tracked. In addition to my expertise in ADD/EF Systems Development Coaching, I am known for training and mentoring globally well-informed ADD Coach LEADERS with the vision to innovate, many of the most visible, knowledgeable and successful ADD Coaches in the field today (several of whom now deliver highly visible ADD coach trainings themselves). For almost a decade, I personally sponsored and facilitated seven monthly, virtual and global, no-charge support and information groups The ADD Hours™ - including The ADD Expert Speakers Series, hosting well-known ADD Professionals who were generous with their information and expertise, joining me in my belief that "It takes a village to educate a world." I am committed to being a thorn in the side of ADD-ignorance in service of changing the way neurodiversity is thought about and treated - seeing "a world that works for everyone" in my lifetime. Get in touch when you're ready to have a life that works BECAUSE of who you are, building on strengths to step off that frustrating treadmill "when 'wanting to' just doesn't get it DONE!"

79 Responses to How well do you REALLY function?

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  3. reocochran says:

    Oh, this is so true of my forties! I was a balancing act gone awry, as well as my pastor/advisor saying she saw me as “barely treading water!” Almost like boiling in that froggy water, Madelyn. Yikes! . . .
    I am really heading towards bed so take care and hugs xo

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    • Mee tooo – g’nite!
      xx,
      mgh

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  4. mistermuse says:

    I don’t have any “executive functioning struggles” because I’ve never been an executive, however if you have any non-suggestive suggestions for ‘husband functioning struggles’ (other than “Yes, dear,” I’m all ears (well, not really, but maybe it would help if I were). 😦

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    • hahaha! So sorry, Muse, but you’re on your own there — unless, of course, you both decide to attend couples coaching (fat chance, right?) 🙂

      Otherwise . . . earplugs? 🙂 🙂
      xx,
      mgh

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  5. A wonderful and informative article, Madelyn. I read your list very carefully and am relieved to note that I don’t seem to have trouble with any of those things [at the moment]. My stress isn’t usually work related but rather comes from the state of the nation and world although this doesn’t derail me. I look forward to reading the next edition.

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    • Thanks so much for reading and commenting, Robbie.

      Looking at your life from what you share online and how much you are able to DO, it seems obvious that your executive functioning is excellent – and that you are able to “coach” Michael to overcome his challenges as well.

      My own EF challenges are severely exacerbated by my concern for what is happening politically – and the unthinking cruelty that is supported by so many. I’m right with you on that one.

      And, of course, stress negatively impacts the PFC (and shortens telomeres, which negatively impacts healthy aging) – so all of us must find ways to manage stress, whatever the source.
      xx,
      mgh

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  6. dgkaye says:

    Looking forward to this interesting series. I think at this time in the world so many of us are swimming upstream. We could all use a little downstroking. 🙂 xx

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    • More than a little, Debby – we could ALL use a lot (especially me!)
      xx,
      mgh

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      • dgkaye says:

        Especially many of us. 🙂 xx

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  7. Inspiredme says:

    Great post

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    • Thank you so very much for taking the time to say so! 🙂
      xx,
      mgh

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  8. Thanks for this very informative post, Madelyn – I’m learning all kinds of things from your posts!

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    • Glad to hear it, John, ’cause I learn all kinds of things from your post too! That’s what I love about the blogging community – we each share our interests, education and expertise, and everybody’s “small talk” gets a lot bigger! 🙂

      Only last nite (at Tinkie’s Cheers bar on Trivia Nite – during the time the teams all had to answer the moderator’s questions), I was talking about a bit of history I had just read on your blog! I’m still no help on Tink’s team with the actual Trivia questions – lol.
      xx,
      mgh

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      • Happy to be helpful on your Trivia Nite! You’re so right – we do learn from each other!

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        • I think that’s why God throws us together – to expand each other’s horizons by learning new things.

          Life would quickly get boring if we limited ourselves to what we *already* know about and explore – and empathy would be in even shorter supply in the world.
          xx,
          mgh

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          • You are very wise, Madelyn – I’m glad God threw me in your direction – great catch!

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            • DITTO! I didn’t have history teachers who were interesting to me, so I’ve had to learn everything I know through books and plays and now super history bloggers like you & GP (WWII).

              If you taught history today, would you encourage your students to blog history?
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Knowing what I know now about blogging, yes, I’d encourage students today to blog about history and to check out some history blogs. Thanks for the compliment! All history is, is recorded human behavior + interpretations – therefore why do some people have to make it boring? Human behavior is fascinating!

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            • I’ve run into a couple of sites where I believe the students are required to blog – given the titles of their posts. Maybe that is how they turn in their homework but, in my experience, the fastest way to turn kids off to learning is to insist on the format in which they report back! (make it “extra credit” and they’re all about it!) 🙂

              My history teachers seemed to think it was all about dates and names (and memory tests) – none of which capture the imagination. No surprise that I learned more about the world from English teachers vs. my history or geography classes.

              I’ll bet I would have LOVED history if you had taught me back in the day.
              xx,
              mgh

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  9. -Eugenia says:

    Madelyn, you gave so much to offer in your posts. This is so helpful – not only in understanding ourselves, but others, as well. 😃

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    • ::kisses:: Thank you, thank you, thank you! That’s another of my goals for sharing – increasing empathy and understanding in the world!!!
      xx,
      mgh

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  10. We love that story of the “boiling frog syndrome” and have used it so often. It is a real concept and if we are not careful it is so easy to fall into. So many truths here… Have been to that point of drowning but refusing to admit it and out of pride not reaching out for help. It is a very scary place to be and soooo easy to fall into. We think nothing of running to the Dr. for a muscle ache but when we have an emotional ache we are afraid to reach for help out of fear that we aren’t normal. Great points here Madelyn.

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    • Lack of mental health awareness and information — and STIGMA! Reducing same is why I began my monthly Awareness calendars.

      On one of my PTSD posts [When Fear Becomes Entrenched & Chronic] I actually began with a comment like yours above – how we have no problem allowing ourselves to reach out for help with physical ailments but hide in the closet when the struggle is “invisible” and mental. It went on to describe what it took to get ME to reach out – even though I know better.

      I can’t believe you had to “almost drown” to get YOU to reach out for help. When and where?
      xx,
      mgh

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      • “STIGMA” is a big one for sure. We feel like we failed at life or something. For me it was God tapping on my shoulder to get my attention. But being a slow sheep He took me to my knees which is exactly where he wanted me. Broken He then put me back together. Oh yeah, had 9 out of 10 but really had all 10 but didn’t admit it. Like I said… He knew how to get my attention. The experience made me sooo much better in my field in not only working with the client but later when responsible for large numbers of staff. Once ya been there you can identify it more clearly in others as you and so many others know.

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        • I think anyone who can truthfully say they have NOT been there and done that needs to add one word: yet! I am so glad you survived it!

          I’m right there with you on life experience making it easier to REALLY relate to the challenges of others.

          Experience is the very best teacher!
          xx,
          mgh

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          • Yes. “Yet” is the operative word. Life has a way of bringing us to our knees and often if required. We challenge its reasons and we are discovering the choices are “bitter” or “better”. My/our moments of distress have allowed us to see things we never would have otherwise. At the time…. they suck big time but in reflection I see things differently.

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            • Beautifully languaged!
              xx, mgh

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  11. omtatjuan3 says:

    Excellent post!

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    • Thank you so much for the visit, and for taking the time to let me know you were here. I really appreciate it.
      xx,
      mgh

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  12. This is a fabulous and informative post! Thanks so much for linking to my post on Executive Function and Bipolar Disorder.

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    • You are most welcome – thanks for writing such a great post that I could link to! Also thanks for popping over to read what I had to say on the EF topic. It takes a village, right?
      xx,
      mgh

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  13. Thanks for this wonderful share Madelyn and so informative and encouraging words. You are an awesome Coach and I must say loved the entire post of yours. It is so nice to have people like you who are so inspiring and encouraging.

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    • Thanks so much, Kamal. The timing for another Executive Functioning post just seemed right – we all begin to struggle with EF to various degrees as we age and I have so many readers who are Boomers.

      Thanks always for your loving support.
      xx,
      mgh

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      • Welcome Madelyn and I sure agree with your words cause as we age all life and their circumstances seem to be like a stone on us and life can sure take another turn but being focussed and reading and listening to Masters and Motivational speakers does work and also so many people are helping nowadays.

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        • Yes, and accurate information and professional help makes a HUGE difference to quality of life – but the World Health Organization figures say that 2/3 of the many MILLIONS of those who are struggling (world-wide) never reach out for help and treatment when needed – mostly due to the stigma still attached to anything related to Mental Health, according to them. SO sad!
          xx,
          mgh

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          • Yes absolutely agree Madelyn and then suicides rates too go up cause life is moving so fast that it is taking a real toll on relationships and almost each and everyone are lacking in love and that is the real gist of all the problems in this world. We all are going thru our bit though being with like minded people really helps and our WP must say too is so inspiring and encouraging bloggers too.

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            • Agree on all points. Community support – even online – makes such a difference! Spreading light and love could change our world if enough of us would do so.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Yes absolutely. Good night and have a good sleep with Tink.

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            • G’nite – though it’s already almost dawn here. You have a great day.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Thanks Madelyn.

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            • 🙂

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  14. that was great to read… and I think that’s egg-sactly the point… it it happens slowly and bit by bit we accept it some day as common…. thanks that you made me pondering today… I will try to jump out of the pot before the water starts to boil ;o)

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    • Good idea! That’s the underlying message of the post. I didn’t name my company The Optimal Functioning Institute™ for nuthin’! Thanks for taking the time to read and leave me feedback.
      xx,
      mgh

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  15. This is a beginning of great and very helpful series – I’ll be looking forward to the next installments. Very well done!

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    • Thank you so much, Dolly. I been banging the EF drum for almost 30 years, but in researching links, etc. I read quite a few posts that presented it as “new” brain-science – even a site run by a therapist who is training EF coaches – so I guess I’m on-trend -lol-. 🙂
      xx,
      mgh

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      • You know what King Solomon said, “There is nothing new under the sun and moon.” I am glad that, first of all, you are “trending” – it means that people will listen to you. Secondly, since it is immensely important to spread this information, I am glad that you are doing it.

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        • I wish there were something brand new to write about – I am so weary of 30 years of spreading the SAME message repeatedly (and running out of different ways to spread it!)

          I wish the message would LAND already, so I could get on with the rest of my life (but I sincerely appreciate your support of my endeavors).
          xx,
          mgh

          P.S. Another comment spammed, Dolly – just so you know.

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          • It says in “Ethics of our Fathers” that unless a teacher repeats the same information 100 times, he hasn’t really taught it, and if he repeats it 100 times, and the student still doesn’t get it, he must repeat it again, up to 400 times.
            You have a long way to go!

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            • I clicked “like” but only because I like the messenger – NOT the message. 🙂
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Whether we like it or not, it’s the reality of teaching and learning. Statistically, if 80% of your students learned 80% of intended material, you are doing well and should proceed with the next topic. This rule of thumb is based on students who are in a classroom and either desire or are obligated to sit and learn. You are trying to teach an unseen wide audience out there without any way of assessing and evaluating anything. All you can do, if that’s what you have taken upon yourself, is to keep repeating. Someone will retain something, definitely!

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            • I am vaguely aware of that, sadly – though I wasn’t when I began. It makes me wonder if it’s time to move on myself, since I derive no income from an endeavor that takes a GREAT deal of time and I dearly need the time to keep a roof over my head as I age. “You want fries with that burger?” lol 🙂
              xx,
              mgh

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            • I don’t know if I am in a position to disperse advice, but your presence in the blogosphere lends much prestige to your professional / financially viable undertaking. I would pare it down to a minimum, so as not to interfere with basic making a living, but still keep it up.

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            • Thanks for your advice, Dolly. Wise indeed. I have recently decided to post only on Mondays and Fridays, but may have to go down further, to only once a week. We’ll see.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • I am glad to be of help, even in a minor way. I wish you tons of luck in everything you do!

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            • And I you. I am so glad to have “met” you!
              xx,
              mgh

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            • It’s mutual, and I hope one day we meet in person.

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            • Oh yes – my fondest wish – in your kitchen, of course. 🙂
              xx,
              mgh

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            • But of course! We all to meet Tink because we are not traveling cats, so you have to come visit us!
              Meows and purrs, and much love!

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            • I am still training Tink to become an extremely well-behaved little guy because I want him to be a traveling pooch.

              If we curtail the barking, we’ve got it knocked. He’s still young (2 last Oct.), so we stand a good shot.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • We can take barking; we like all friends, including the ones that bark!
              Meows and purrs!

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            • Are you sure the kitties are on board with that?
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Whoever doesn’t like guests gets locked in the bedroom.

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            • Aw – that would drive Tink crazy. Even when he is not feeling social, he wants to be where the action is – and will lie down quietly as long as another animal doesn’t pass by – then the barking starts (dogs, mostly – squirrels he wants to chase and cats he seems to want to sniff, which they don’t usually appreciate). That’s what we’re working on.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Cats are totally self-sufficient, as long as they have food, water, and litter box. Sometimes we have human guests who are afraid or cats (what’s there to be afraid of, I don’t know!), so we just lock them (the cats, not the guests) in our bedroom. They don’t mind.

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            • Its nice they have each other for company – altho’ Peggy’s cat hides under her bed all by herself when anyone else is around.

              I know people who are afraid of little dogs — never got that either.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • There is a myth that little dogs are vicious. There is another myth that big dogs are killers. Both are pretty much conditional upon the way animals are brought up and trained. Also, there is a theory that pets acquire personality traits of their owners. I’ve observed it to be true in many cases.

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            • Pet behavior IS a matter of temperament combined with training – which is a direct reflection of the personalities of the owners.

              Fear of big dogs I get, they can do some serious damage when they’ve been abused or poorly trained. But vicious little dogs could be dispatched with a kick or two — NOT that I advise that, but I think it might assuage a few fears to remember it. They are, after all, *little* dogs, easily overpowered, if necessary.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • In that case, why are so many people afraid of mice? They are tiny creatures, they barely make any sounds, and they do not attack people. Fears are irrational, inexplicable by logic.

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            • I know. But who could be afraid of little Tink? He’s a cuddle bunny.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • That he is, I am sure!

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            • Of course I think he’s adorable, but a few others have slung that term his way as well – little dog people.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • Of course he is adorable!

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            • My fur-faced baby. I am SO biased – so thanks for this.
              xx,
              mgh

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            • LOL Aren’t we all?
              Meows and purrs!

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            • Absolutely! All of the fur-babies are precious.
              xx, mgh

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            • Mrrrrr! Like totally!

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