Monday, April 17, 2017 50 Comments
Fashionistas & their Opposites
A brain-based look
© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
from the Brain-Based Series
Collaboration with Jodie’s Touch of Style
Whatever we think about how they put themselves together, we tend to notice that we see them in a different outfit every time we see them – even if we see them several times on the same day.
Many of us who like to think of ourselves as serious thinkers love to make fun of them. We frequently believe they’re vapid, self-focused vanity plates wasting time and energy on items that don’t make one whit of difference.
And we’d be wrong.
They might not be changing the world, but they certainly are changing their clothes! And that’s not such a bad thing, you’ll come to find out as you keep reading.
Most of us have met at least one of these ladies. A perfect example is the college beauty queen who hasn’t changed her style since her heyday, despite the fact that she is now middle aged or older.
Her hairstyle is practically the same, often chemically processed at considerable trouble or expense to remain exactly the same color. Her wardrobe usually has a slightly “Delta Dawn” feel to it – frozen in time.
Youngsters sometimes point them out in a manner you wish they wouldn’t, and often at the top of their lungs, “Look Mom – that old lady looks just like Aunt Theresa!”
Another example is “Sensible Susie.”
She has decided what is appropriate and what is no longer suitable for any number of reasons: since she’s gained or lost weight, now that she’s older, the kids are in middle school, her husband got a promotion — whatever!
She may well be right, but the problem is that she turns what might have been a good idea into a rule book from which she never varies.
She may be easy to shop for, but nobody would ever accuse her of being “fashion forward,” and she’s often one of the first to point out the supposed flaws in the outfit of a contemporary.
Make way for “Matching Molly”
My own grandmother could have been the Matching Molly poster girl. If an ensemble was purchased as an outfit, the various items might as well have been sewn together.
Suggesting to her that she could wear the jacket from Outfit A over a dress – or with the skirt from Outfit B – was practically enough to give her apoplexy.
She had a fit if I mixed and matched in my own wardrobe too, especially with items that she had given me as birthday or Christmas presents — there was no such thing as “separates” in my grandmother’s closet or her world view.