10 Simple Coaching Questions to Consider
Wednesday, April 12, 2017 53 Comments
10-Step Coaching – NOT just for ADD
Things to think about that can give you a Brand New LIFE
Begin with a pen, pencil (or crayon!) and a pad of your favorite paper — or your favorite software on your computer (whatever you believe works best for YOU – but I promise it will work best for your brain to do it on paper).
Find a comfortable place to perch
while you meander through the ten items below.
I promised you simple – but not easy – so plan on spending 30-45 minutes or longer – as much time as you can spare, but don’t try to squeeze it all in between activities and interruptions. You need to get into a thinking space and stay there, even if that means you take it in segments.
FIRST, gather everything you are going to need
so you’re not tempting to wander away mid-process:
- Something to write with – and on – or
- Whatever electronic toy you swear works better for you
- Something to drink
- Maybe something to snack on while you work
Adjust your clothing, if you need to. Unfasten anything that needs to be looser. Kick off your shoes if you feel like it. Squirm around until you feel comfortable in your own skin.
Take several d-e-e-p breaths, exhaling slowly, while you think about your life as it is RIGHT NOW, before you work your way through the list below.
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Allow things to drift into your mind . . .
Don’t force ANYTHING
- Where do things feel stuck?
- What would you like to be different?
- What seems to be the biggest struggle?
- Where do you feel tethered to the treadmill?
- Where is “working hard” keeping you from spending time on what you love — and on what’s easy?
Whatever pops into your head is fine. Don’t over-think this, just bring it to consciousness gently.
When you feel ready, take some time to reflect on each of the points below.
Capture your thinking in writing, not only to make sure you come up with some specifics, but also so that you can go back to it whenever you want.
Ten Change-your-life Concepts
1. There is nothing wrong here.
2. What’s working already?
3. What’s working about it?
• What values are being expressed?
• What needs are being met in a healthy, constructive way?
• What systems are already in place?
• What strengths are being utilized naturally?
• What skills light you up when you use them?
4. How can we expand that into the rest of your life?
5. What are you tolerating? (Where is life a royal pain in the butt?)
6. What actions can you take (or requests can you make) to eliminate all tolerations, one by one?
7. What’s in the way of your really shining?
• Where are the blockades, tar pits, falling rocks and mudslides?
• What are you trying to do the hard way (for you)?
8. What work-arounds can be developed to handle the tasks you don’t like to do,
— and probably don’t do well as a result?
9. What systems can we put in place that utilize your strengths?
10. If your life worked EXACTLY the way you’d like it to, what would it look like?
• What’s one version of Your Ideal Life?
• What’s another?
• What would definitely NOT be part of your ideal life?
Did you DO it?
If yes, good for you! (If no, why not? Really – as a real question.)
I can also help you get clear on some of the points above in your very own life.
So can a Peer Coach or a good, non-judgmental friend.
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