Five Golden Rings – from a Post-Christmas Sale

Maids, Pipers, Lords, Drummers & Birds . . .
ALL Make Way for Twelfth Nite
January 6th: when sensible ADD Poster Girls prefer to hold the present-fest

© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
An edited reposting of an earlier idea

Are Merry Christmas & Happy New Year behind you now?

If so, I hope your Christmas festivities were everything you wanted them to be, and that all of your gifts were happily received in more than the spirit of that thought-that-counts manner.

I also hope that you are so happy with the gifts you received that you spend not a nano-second in a returns line.

HOWEVER, as many of you are focused on recovering from celebrating the arrival of the New Year, a scant few of us are still anticipating Christmas celebrations ourselves – after a fashion.

We who NEED a Little Christmas . . . TIME!


I know – for those of us who celebrate Christmas at all – ever since we were young enough to eagerly await the visit of Santa Claus, most of us have been accustomed to the idea that opening presents happens on the morning of December 25th.

But haven’t we ALREADY made some modifications to that particular plan?

It’s not unusual for families to pick another day to get together to celebrate – a time when ALL the family members will be able to attend.

Blended families frequently have more than ONE unwrapping ceremony – both on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day – and sometimes extending to other days and times as well.

Many of us have long-ago relocated Christmas present unwrapping to Christmas Eve — sometimes to make it easier for everyone to focus on getting out door for Christmas services at various places of worship, or sometimes to allow them to sleep late on Christmas morning, hoping to recover from the exhaustion of the rush of December before ramping up for New Year’s Eve.

I would like to suggest that moving the present-fest earlier
is going the wrong way, Jose!

Artist Patience Brewster’s Nativity Wise Men

Good enough for THREE Wise Men equals perfect for us

Legend has it that those three Wise Men following that star-so-bright did NOT arrive with their gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh bright and early on the morning of December 25th.

It took twelve more days and nights for them to get there with the presents: they arrived on January 6th (which marks the beginning of the Mardi Gras Season, for New Orleans aficionados).

Far be it from me to suggest that those Men had a kludgy sense of direction or a sense of time similar to my own (which is to say, NONE!), but I don’t recall anyone considering them late to the party, do you?

So, not only is there is some serious precedence for taking a bit more time, there are more than a few substantially great reasons for delaying gift exchange.

Let’s take a look at a few of those reasons that is a bit more serious-minded than an older post on the topic.

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Six substantially GREAT reasons for Delay

  1. No rush to wrap! Think about it. Doesn’t 12 extra days’ time to create beautiful presentations for all the gifts you hope to give sound like heaven?
  2. More time to purchase — no more last hour scrambles in stores over-crowded with other last hour scramblers.
  3. Gifting sneak-peeks — you have the advantage of finding out what other gifts your friends and loved ones already received from the preternaturally punctual, lessening the chance that you will be asked for a gift receipt so that your gift can be exchanged (because you KNOW you will have no idea where you put it!)
  4. Less breaking of the Christmas bank — Those “Twelve Days of Christmas” True Love Givers that everybody sings about were able to gift so much because they shopped the 12 days after Christmas, when golden rings are ON SALE (nobody could afford to pay retail for five of the darned things!) Shopping the after-Christmas and early January sales stretches the budget in a fashion that is practically a Christmas miracle.
  5. Fewer Scheduling Conflicts – It “uncrowds” your holiday calendar, minimizing the pressure of those “I thought you were spending this Christmas with US this year” in-law hurt feelings, as it still allows you to create your own family traditions free of most family-of-origin expectations.
  6. Time to actually enjoy friends and family — This is the biggie.

I have friends (and you know who you are!) who are so exhausted and frazzled by the time the big day arrives that the tension in the air is palpable – which seriously dampens the warm and fuzzy glow they were rushing to create.

  • Some may make the deadline, but much of the joy of the process has been sucked practically bone-dry.  Sleep deprived from the last-second rush, they are either running on coffee fumes or sleep-walking zombies.
  • Others barely allow themselves to feel good about what they have managed to put together because the spectre of what they were not able to finish before the December 25th deadline haunts the halls – for all concerned, by the way.  No fun!
  • And just when they are ready for a long winter’s nap, it’s time for the last-minute Christmas Dinner preparations. And the clean up once everyone has eaten their fill. And the packaging of the left-overs. Sheesh!


keep-calm-entireXmasEITHER way . . .

Are you are one of those amazing souls who can execute a plan like an army field marshal?

Or are you more like most of the readers here on — who think of planning ahead, following through and curing cancer as three of the many activities our brains were simply not designed to be able to DO?

Either way, there’s a lot to be said for remaining aware that the enjoyment of the process itself must remain foremost in our minds.

Giving the Gift of YOU for the holidays

Even though I have always adored the process myself, it took me a while to realize that my own yearly frazzle was dampening the enthusiasm for those who shared Christmas with me.

I’ll bet that, like mine, your loved ones would rather have YOU for Christmas than all of the things you think you want to do to make Christmas special for them.

Since it wasn’t IN me to scale back my efforts in the decorating arena – or to juggle Christmas planning with everything else that suddenly must be done as the weather begins to chill – the Twelfth Night idea made just too much sense.

EVEN if you can’t imagine changing the timing of your Christmas festivities, I’d like to strongly suggest that you scale back when you get frazzled.  If you do, it is likely that, like the reformed Scrooge (after his brush with those time-traveling ghosts), you will be known forevermore as one who kept Christmas WELL.

How were the holidays in your reality?

Are you fully recovered from the mad dash for the 25th deadline yet?  Were you sufficiently re-energized to have the reserves to actually enjoy staying up to ring in the New Year?

By the way, is your tree still up, or are you someone who spends the days immediately following December 25th promptly returning the decor to its previous state before the New Year dawns?

  • If you leave the tree up for a while – how LONG of a while?
  • What about wreathes and garlands and other Christmas baubles?  Do those get taken down first, or left up until after the tree has been popped back in its box or carried to the curb? (which, by the way?)
  • Anybody out there like ME — still decking the halls, aiming for Twelfth Night?

THIS Inquiring Mind really wants to know

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About Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
Award-winning ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching field co-founder; [life] Coaching pioneer -- Neurodiversity Advocate, Coach, Mentor & Poster Girl -- Multi-Certified -- 25 years working with EFD [Executive Functioning disorders] and struggles in hundreds of people from all walks of life. I developed and delivered the world's first ADD-specific coach training curriculum: multi-year, brain-based, and ICF Certification tracked. In addition to my expertise in ADD/EF Systems Development Coaching, I am known for training and mentoring globally well-informed ADD Coach LEADERS with the vision to innovate, many of the most visible, knowledgeable and successful ADD Coaches in the field today (several of whom now deliver highly visible ADD coach trainings themselves). For almost a decade, I personally sponsored and facilitated seven monthly, virtual and global, no-charge support and information groups The ADD Hours™ - including The ADD Expert Speakers Series, hosting well-known ADD Professionals who were generous with their information and expertise, joining me in my belief that "It takes a village to educate a world." I am committed to being a thorn in the side of ADD-ignorance in service of changing the way neurodiversity is thought about and treated - seeing "a world that works for everyone" in my lifetime. Get in touch when you're ready to have a life that works BECAUSE of who you are, building on strengths to step off that frustrating treadmill "when 'wanting to' just doesn't get it DONE!"

26 Responses to Five Golden Rings – from a Post-Christmas Sale

  1. Eugenia says:

    I love your site – lots of action keep it interesting.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Thanks Eugenia. Altho’ my main focus here is effective functioning (brain-based), I try to come at things from different vantage points, and focus on various arenas of challenge that drive us ALL crazy!

      Some posts are more scientific, some are a tad crazy, some are a mixture. Keeps ME interested.

      LOVE your gravitar, btw. Coffee is my drug of choice.
      xx, mgh


  2. Pingback: Smorgasbord Blogger Daily – Friday 6th January – Final Festivities and Royal Honey Cake | Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life

    • Great to see that a ping would have gotten me to your post – even if I hadn’t already tripped across it in the Reader “late” last “nite.” Thanks again for including me in your round-up.


  3. dgkaye says:

    I love your theory on the 3 wisemen, and your ‘extenda Christmas days’. I’d have to think the best part would be by gifts at half price after Christmas, something to ponder. Well, my tree got folded up and put back in its box on Sunday, trimmings included. Now it’s just hoping for a well needed good year. Happy New Year to you Madelyn. 🙂 xo

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    • Another rescue from the spam folder
      MY tree and fireplace garlands are STILL up (mid-January) – lol. Good thing they’re artificial and I LOVE Christmas.

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      • dgkaye says:

        Lollllllllllllllllllllll, you’re hilarious. 🙂 🙂 xo

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        • Thanks – when others ask me why, I’m going to use that very phrase!

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          • dgkaye says:

            🙂 🙂 🙂

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  4. happy new year to you.

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    • Thank you – and to YOU as well. xx, mgh

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    • And to you as well. Thanks for reading and leaving your good wishes.

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    • My first reply didn’t show up as sent until I’d left the second, so I thought your sweet wishes were languishing. ‘Sup with that?
      xx, mgh

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      • ok. grazie, thanks. ciao from italy.
        by rinaldo rasa

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        • I approved your link for my readers who are FaceBook fans. I can barely keep up with blogs and bloggers as it is, so I avoid Facebook like the plague (or I’d never get ANYTHING else done – lol)

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          • ok. ok. friend me too . you are right. i know. ciao. ciao. 😊

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  5. Reblogged this on Kate McClelland.


    • I am scrambling to keep up with everything, but I had to take a few moments to leave a sincere THANK YOU to you for this reblog. God bless you.

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      • Really don’t worry about it Madelyn, I’ll still be here when you catch up :0)

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        • BLESS you for that. I’ve never done well with pressure — even when I do it to myself it shuts me down. So thanks SO much for taking a few shoulds off my plate for me.

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          • You’re welcome Madelyn xxx

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            • Kisses, kisses, kisses! xx, mgh

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  6. mahdheebah says:

    First off, good post👌, secondly” have you been to Africa? Ever

    Liked by 1 person

    • Thanks. Unfortunately, as a life-long entrepreneur, when there has been money to travel it has covered up my time to make it so. Whenever I have had the time, the coffers have been seriously empty – so I’ve never really been able to realize my travel dreams.

      Lest you think it is ALL about money with me (which couldn’t be farther from the truth), please remember that I have spent over 25 years as a helping professional — who needs to keep a roof over her puppy’s head and food in his bowl to be available to help ANYONE). 🙂 Next life, huh?


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      • mahdheebah says:

        Yes haha, I understand that. But not to worry, anything can still happen. Its like Kevin Garnette said “anything is possible” so raincheck?

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        • That would be lovely! xx, mgh

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