Our Brains, Crock Pots™ and Microwaves
Wednesday, January 21, 2015 2 Comments
Metaphors of Mind & Brain
Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
In our attempt to understand ourselves and our environment, we often end up talking about the brain — “that three pound lump of jelly you can hold in the palm of your hand” [~V.S. Ramachandran]
Even though science has learned to quantify a great many of the elements of the brain, most of us still search for metaphors and analogies as we attempt to describe our understanding and our experiences.
In my own mind, the way in which my brain is like either a microwave or a Crock Pot™ pops up frequently – and I use the terms as communication “short-cuts” in my coaching.
“Want hot coffee now!” is a powerful incentive to consider the ‘nuker a necessity in my own life, in any case.
Microwaves work with ADD Brain Wiring.
The concept of a Crock Pot™ is greeted less enthusiastically by almost everyone in the EFD crowd, ADD or not!
“Spend energy now, then wait 6 hours for food?
What moron dreamed THAT up?”
However, there are some dandy little benefits to a slow-cooker.
It is the ultimate procrastination permission-slip, for one thing. It seems to me that I can forget about one of those things for days and still eat the meal whenever I remember that it’s waiting for me. (Just kidding – don’t try this at home!)
I use my brain that way some times
I put some things in “slow-cook” mode, figuring that I’ll be better able to handle them later, and that they will still be “digestible” if I forget about them for a while.
By giving myself permission to do things my way on my timetable, my brain responds with a way to solve the issue that works for me.
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Put it in your slow-cooker
As I recommend in my Boggle Book (LinkList to excerpts HERE ), “slow-cook” the answers to the questions I ask in the book (or here on ADDandSoMuchMore.com), as well as your reaction to the idea of gathering “tools” to capture your thoughts while you read The Boggle Book excerpts (OR any of the articles on this blog), in whatever way you decide to do it — which will probably be thought of as “your way.”
THEN, pay attention to how your way shifts to any degree:
- more willing to use the advice in the format suggested,
- less willing to do so,
- encouraged to find another way to do the same thing, etc.
NOW, what will you DO in response to what you discovered?
- Dig in and defend the old, regardless, or adjust to new information?
- What HAVE you been doing?
My Take on Productivity
In my many years working with ADD/EFD, I have observed that what trips us up most is a process akin to denial.
Until we begin to observe the unique manner in which we respond and react, we unconsciously defend or attack ourselves from expectations that, somewhere deep inside, we know are unrealistic, given our particular flavor of ADD/EFD.
That way lies madness!
On the other hand, the mad-as-a-hatter way of handling things is to refuse to pay attention to new input or try anything new – especially from what I call ADD/EFD-literate individuals.
I am always shocked – yep, that’s the only word for it – by those willing to pay good money to coach or train with me, only to insist on doing things the way in which they are familiar.
Our team needs new data!
How in the world are we going to tweak-to-fit if you won’t give something new an honest try and report your findings in as unbiased a manner as possible?
I would also be so bold as to suggest that if you hired me, you didn’t already know everything I was going to tell you. TAKE THE COACHING!
If you are reading this blog . . .
You are, in effect, a pro-bono client — one who also needs to take the coaching.
Slow cook whatever you must, before you begin, but there will be no CHANGE until you try something besides what you have been doing to date and change a few decisions and habits.
Your instincts about what works for you are no doubt right in part.
Wouldn’t you like to be able to figure out which part?
You have to start somewhere. Why wander off in the wilderness or continue to force-feed yourself neurotypical tips and tricks if you don’t have to?
I suggest that, when life is not really working for you, you take the advice of someone with a ton of experience about what has worked for many others like you – like practically everything on over 400 articles written to help, right here on ADDandSoMuchMore.
Read the content, take the coaching, do the work –
and life gets better.
It’s not easy, but it absolutely IS that simple.
Leave me feedback, I keep sharing – that’s pretty simple too!
NOTICE: Beginning next week, I will be turning more of my attention to endeavors with a greater ROI (return on investment), so the number of articles posted per month will decrease substantially.
- I’ll resume posting here more often when the feedback on any of the now 638 posts and pages already on the site lets me know me that what I am sharing is valued and valuable.
- Until then, I need to find more productive uses for the great deal of [non-billable] time I’ve been spending maintaining this blog. I will be checking only once a day or so to approve and respond to comments left on ADDandSoMuchMore.com and to delete LinkSpam.
- I will continue to make time to connect with the relative few of you who have always taken the time to leave feedback – on YOUR blogs, primarily – and thanks so much for being the wind beneath my blogging wings for the past 4 years (in March 2015!)
- While I return my attention to my books, my services will now be available primarily for hire – article linked below explains how to follow-up on that idea.
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From the Coaching FIT series:
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- The Optimal Functioning (Challenges) Series of articles
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- The MASTER LinkList of LinkLists (by topic)