STOP Judging Purse-dogs!
Monday, January 19, 2015 7 Comments
Unless you also DRAG your little kids
(in which case, I have judgment about YOU!)
© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Tiny dogs have tiny legs (duh!)
It recently took a great deal of will-power to over-ride my impulse to smack a college student who [loudly] opined to his friends, as they passed me during a walk with my brand new teeny-tiny puppy, that “some people” needed to let their dogs out of their “purses” to walk for themselves.
I am full-grown, tall and have long legs.
My little Shih Tzu pup is about three months old, weighs less than five pounds, and has legs that are less than three inches long.
While he needs (and seems to adore) the exercise he gets trotting along beside me on our walks, the amount of time he is able to keep up without exhaustion is limited.
Humans can’t trot alongside horses for very long either!
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Get OVER your judgmental selves!
- Did it even occur to that particular smart-a$$ that, perhaps, my dog had been “walking for himself” and was plum tuckered out before we could get back home?
- Would he and his snarky, opinionated, sniggering friends have liked it better if I had been dragging a panting, exhausted pup behind me?
- I guess they also failed to notice that the small carrier slung across my body with a strap was NOT, in fact, a purse, but an attractive dog carrier designed for dog-KINDNESS, not cruelty.
Let’s think through this logically
Does the following point ever occur to the not-at-all-humorous individuals who make internet comments and pin quotes about “ridiculous” purse-dogs:
People who take their tiny dogs with them as they go about the daily to-dos outside their homes are actually BETTER “dog-guardians” than those who leave them home alone (and then punish the poor things when they get bored and attempt to amuse themselves in ways that are against the house-rules?).
Do we “little dog” folks judge those of you who prefer BIG dogs? (well, not to your face, anyway – so think about THAT the next time you are tempted to open your mouths in judgment!)
We understand without explanation that bigger dogs present bigger challenges where road trips are concerned, challenges that those of us with tiny dogs believe we’re lucky not to have to think about – only ONE of many reasons we choose tiny dogs, by the none-of-your-business way.
I’ll bet that more than a few big-dog owners who leave their dogs crated at home for hours on end (because they don’t have an easy option for taking them along), would probably LOVE a solution that would allow them to expose their furry friends to more stimulation from the outside world — as well as allowing a return to a house in that is NOT in shambles!
Even BIGGER parental problems
Parents of special needs children will be able to empathize immediately. They have been at the receiving end of unthinking judgments practically every time they have exposed their children to the outside world.
SO MANY PEOPLE fail to realize that “easy” neuro-typical children are NOT simply a product of anybody’s amazing parenting style, one that the poor parents struggling with their neuro-atypical children need only to adopt to have a child who “behaves” in public.
Hey guys – your kids behave because they have brains that respond to typical parenting advice.
You would probably explode (or implode) if, for even ONE DAY, you had to jump through the hoops that the parent you are judging has lived with 24/7 since the child was very young.
So try to remember, when you are tempted to judge another:
YOU don’t walk in their shoes!
And THEY don’t need your advice or appreciate your comments!
The ONLY things they want from you are what you would want from them, were you in their shoes:
- an empathetic smile, and
- just a little bit of patience and some attempt at understanding.
And don’t be surprised, by the way, if I DO smack the livin’ daylights out of the next person who opines in a manner that seems to imply that they know better what my little pup needs than I do!
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