Back Scratching-101: How to get support for YOUR objectives
Monday, September 22, 2014 17 Comments
© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
A DAILY grump initiator . . .
that I must work with myself daily to find a way to
rise above to continue to do what I do here.
It’s more difficult to rise on Mondays.
It seems to me that many of my readers don’t understand how the blogging environment WORKS — because I simply refuse to believe that most of my readers are selfish (even on Monday Grumpy Monday).
I’m talking about common courtesy practices, not complex SEO tactics, by the way – extending toward someone who has extended toward you – which means:
- Saying thank you in some fashion ON the blog of the person who liked or followed you.
- Saying thank you in some fashion for information that helps you be more successful in your life (especially in your own coaching practice), whether or not you author a blog designed to do more than pay your own bills — ON the blog of the person who shared with you for free
(Google can’t count email and phone calls, by the way – NICE, but decidedly unhelpful for getting the word out.)
I DO understand the time issue
I’ll be the first to admit that, after spending three to six non-billable hours every single day sharing what I have learned in the past twenty-five years (with the goal of helping those of you who can’t afford private coaching or ongoing coach training), I don’t always have a lot of time left in my day to run my life and make a living.
- As a result, I don’t have the time in my day to visit, like and comment on the blogs of ALL of my followers and those who have left comments here.
- Like everyone else, I must spend time paying my bills with at least SOME of what I do with my time (unless one of you would like to handle that little detail for me.)
- But I do try to make time to visit those who comment, like and follow article by article.
I also spend a substantial time seeking links to blogs that have information adding content or context — through continuously curated links in my Related Content section (at the bottom of almost every post on ADDandSoMuchMore.com).
To give you easier ways to locate articles you want to read on ADDandSoMuchMore.com, my LinkLists already make the GoogleBot a bit grumpy with me. However, EVERY time I scratch a back that doesn’t return the favor amounts to Google promoting THEIR content at the expense of my own.
WHICH MEANS THAT increasingly fewer people are likely to benefit from what I do here, since fewer and fewer people are likely to see anything that isn’t listed early in the search results.
Since I don’t charge for content and support the site alone, I have no budget for a marketing staff and no time to wear one more hat. I have been counting on readers who benefit from what I do to help me spread the word.
Do you realize that every single time I link and the person does NOT link back, like or comment here, I fall further down in Google’s rating algorhythms?
Are you aware that Google counts comments, reblogs, links and likes to help counter inbound/outbound link imbalances?
Don’t those of you who also blog understand that leaving a comment here increases the number of inbound links to YOUR blog or website, as well as helping me promote this free resource?
Don’t forget that you can always check out the sidebar for a reminder
of how links work on this site, they’re subtle (scroll UP for it) ==>
The quote below is from a CoachtheLifeCoach article well worth your time:
“. . . you do have to have some outbound links. The Internet lives and breathes on hyperlinks and if Google thinks you’re receiving and not giving all the time it will conclude you’re a greedy bastard and quite rightly refuse to help you.” ~ from 10 Blogging Basics For Life Coaches
So how come I’m blogging in the [relative] wilderness here?
Most days I am able to rise above it and soldier on for the sake of remaining in integrity with my vision, mission & purpose. But on Monday Grumpy Monday, I howl in frustration – wondering if I’m simply fooling myself and frittering away my time and my life.
NO make wrong* intended – simply a position statement:
I begin every week trying to refrain from taking my football and going home —
and I’m reaching the end of an extremely frayed rope.
Without considerably more response to help me
get the word out about what I DO here,
I don’t know how much longer it makes sense to continue to try to hang on.
I don’t know WHAT to think. Maybe nobody’s reading what I take such pains to write?
If I am to conclude that this free resource is of value, I need more of you to take a moment of your time to LET ME KNOW — in a comment, by hitting “like” — at the bottom of each article — and/or by following or reblogging to share with your communities (with gratitude to those of you who have done so without nudging).
I LIVE for dialogue and community.
A one-way communication format leaves me sad and lonely.
I can soldier on ALONE without anybody’s input, right?
And I can certainly find something enlivening or lucrative to do with the WELL over 100 hours a month I have been spending sharing what I’ve learned — for over three solid years now.
Unfortunately, that is exactly what I will be forced to do if I am led to conclude that I have been wasting my time compiling a free resource that is of little value to most of the community it is intended to serve — I’ll put it ALL in book form, jump back on the speakers circuit, and charge for it.
Let’s hear it from the bloggers
I invite you to dump YOUR Monday grumps and gripes
in the comment section below each of my own – related or NOT.
As long as you don’t make individual people wrong, and do your best to avoid the dreaded “should” word, I will approve all comers (link-spammers shot on sight, however).
[noun] A comment or suggestion coming from a particular view of the world and human interaction that seems to believe that there is a single appropriate and proper way that things are to be handled and languaged.
It usually includes a communication from this viewpoint that, additionally, delivers the information that the listener is somehow not behaving appropriately according to “the rules of the universe,” as monitored from the point of view of the speaker as authority.
In marked contrast to a difference of personal opinion, personal desire or personal preference, make-wrong is generally should-based and shaming – manipulative to its core.
© 1994, Madelyn Griffith-Haynie
from my upcoming Coaching Glossary
Around the ‘net
Read the carefully crafted farewell post from practically famous younghouselove.com Decor Bloggers John and Sherry — superstars of home blogging (with advertisers, books, a line of Target products and more).
They simply quit – walked away to reframe and refocus. It was not quite as “out of the blue” as many commenters seem to think — but perhaps they didn’t take an article written 8 months earlier seriously. (see Less is More)
I read a great deal between the lines of both the first post and this last bittersweet post as I consider whether I will be writing my own after the end of the year.
Some of the bloggers linked below have been MIA for a while as well – their valuable content still online to represent how hard they’ve worked to make a difference in this world we share.
It’s can be a TOUGH gig folks, even when one is making a living from the hours spent creating and curating content. (Most of us are NOT, by the way — we’re simply sharing to support.)
Please think about that before you rush away without taking a moment to click “like,” to leave a quick comment, or to help spread the word so that others may benefit – with ADDandSoMuchMore.com, any of the blogs below or ANY blog that you find helpful. I promise you it makes ALL the difference in the world.
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There’s a lot to know, a lot here already, and a lot more to come – in this Series and in others.
Get it here while it’s still free for the taking.
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You might also be interested in some of the following articles
available right now – on this site and elsewhere.
For links in context: run your cursor over the article above and the dark grey links will turn dark red;
(subtle, so they don’t pull focus while you read, but you can find them to click when you’re ready for them)
— and check out the links to other Related Content in each of the articles themselves —
Related articles right here on ADDandSoMuchMore.com
(in case you missed them above or below)
- The Monday Grumpy Monday intro post
- Vision, Mission & Purpose – anchors in an uncertain world
- ABOUT Values and The Goose Story
- Black and White Make-wrong
- Shifting your Come-From
- Shame on Shoulds
- Distinguishing 101
- ABOUT the Distinctions and Definitions Series
ALSO Related here on ADD-and-So-Much-MORE
- Another ADD Mile with Kludgy Technology
- Digital Literacy: Participating in Online Communities for Mutual Support
ADD/EFD supports on ADDandSoMuchMore.com
A Few LinkLists by Category (to articles here on ADDandSoMuchMore.com)
- The Walking A Mile in Another’s Shoes Series
- The Articles of the What Kind of World do YOU Want? Series
- The Optimal Functioning Series (overcoming Challenges)
(about the Inventory & articles from each category)
More around the ‘net
The blogs below may not be Related to this particular article by content –
I gladly promote their sites because they have always been excellent back scratchers
Locating “Relateds” consumes a great many minutes of my life.
The sites below continue to return the favor – THANK YOU!
LIST GENESIS: WordPress list of my top commenters –
(with gratitude to EACH of the rest of you who participate full out – both on this site and in life itself)
- Janet K. West – alive and well
- Illicit By Nature
- ADD Positively
- Brain injury self rehabilitation (BISR)
- Hazel Owens Learning Community – ictenhancedlearningandteaching
- Delayed2Sleep – DSPS and N24 advocate site
- A Picnic With Ants – multiple challenges, still helping OTHERS
- PDA-Pathological Demand Avoidance
- Broken Brain – Brilliant Mind
- A Devastatingly Heavenly Darling
BY THE WAY: Since ADDandSoMuchMore.com is an Evergreen site, I revisit all my content periodically to update links — when you link BACK, reblog, like, follow, or comment on the article, you STAY on the page. When you do not, you run a high risk of getting replaced by a site with a more generous come-from.