My Top Ten Tips to Improve the Quality of Your Care

HOW to give feedback to Doctors & Therapists
that will increase your odds of
getting what you need

© By Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, A.C.T., MCC, SCAC
Foundational Concepts in the Self-advocacy Series
Improving the Quality of Your Care Part II

Excellent FeedbackFeedback is Essential

Continuing with the theme begun in an earlier article, In Praise of Complainers: Reframing Complaining, where I underscored the importance of feedback to getting our needs met when things were NOT hunky-dorythis article wraps up the focus on getting our needs met with our care providers, begun in Part-I of this article.

HOW we provide feedback – and to whom – makes a difference.

After a quick review of a few important ideas from Part-I, I will expand on the ideas begin there, chunked into a listing of my Top Ten Tips — developed through over 20 years of working with ADD/EFD clients.

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Improving the Quality of Your Care

Don’t make your Doctors “guess”

© By Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, A.C.T., MCC, SCAC
Foundational Concepts in the Self-advocacy Series
Improving the Quality of Your Care – Part 1 of 2

ComplaintHorseComplaint vs Feedback

In an earlier article, In Praise of Complainers-Reframing Complaining, I underscored the importance of feedback to getting our needs met — that, without our negative feedback, the rational assumption is that “all is well.”

If that’s not the case, I went on to say, we MUST “complain” if we ever expect more functionality and life satisfaction than we have right now.  HOWEVER . . .

HOW we provide feedback – and to whom – makes a difference.

This portion of the Self-advocacy Series will begin to take a look at how to provide effective feedback to your care providers.

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Forgetting and Remembering

When Memory Fails

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
From the ADD & Memory Series
Forgetting and Remembering Part 1

Red telehone with memo


There are three harbingers of Old Age:

one is memory loss
and I forget the other two.

What IS Memory, anyway?

All kidding aside, when we think about human memory loss, what is it that we think we’re losing?

The educated “man on the street” would probably say that memory is our ability to store, retain, and recall information.

And he would be right — but the kind of information we utilize memory to store, retain and recall is more complex and comprehensive than most of us realize (and it matters!)

When we “can’t remember” – when only one component of memory fails us (recall on demand) – it is not really the same as when we “forget.”

Most of the time, for most of us with CRS [Can’t Remember Stuff], the information we are trying to “remember” hasn’t been lost, we just can’t seem to recall it when we need it.

  • It is still stored somewhere in that brain of ours, and we probably will recall it later (once we no longer need it, right?)
  • It’s just that our cognitive file clerk is unable to locate it the moment we ask for it.

Most of us could come up with one or more items on the following list of the kinds of things we know we once knew but can no longer recall – which prompts us to say “we don’t remember.”

  1. Facts of various types (like names, phone numbers, birthdays, or how many pints in a quart)
  2. Intellectual or physical procedures (how to determine the square root of a number, tie a Double Windsor knot in a man’s tie, or drive a stick-shift)
  3. Experiences from our past (from our second kiss to our second-cousin’s graduation from college, as well as what transpired in our own lives immediately before, during or after momentous events in everyone’s “memory”)
  4. Elements of language (noun and verb tense agreement, adjectives, adverbs, pronouns, metaphors, similes and more – including how they fit together to form a “grammatically correct” sentence that conveys exactly what we mean to communicate – as well as how to write it down and spell it!)
  5. Locations (how to get to our parent’s new house — as well as where they hide the back-up roll of toilet paper)
  6. Promises and plans (Was that TONIGHT?)

OR anything else we expect ourselves to “remember” without having to “look it up.”

And that’s just the tip of the memory iceberg!

When we speak of memory loss (or memory troubles), we could be talking about any of those arenas, and-a-whole-lot-more!


NOT Black and White

We seldom have troubles with ALL types of memory, yet we speak of our unreliable or declining “memory” in a black and white fashion, as if it affected us across the board.

The more you know about how memory is supposed to work, the better armed you are for how to remember things when yours works differently – so read on!

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BACK – and still deciding

What Are You Doing for the Rest of your Life?
by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

QuestionMarkGuyThat IS the question, isn’t it?

After spending A GREAT MANY minutes of my life creating a great many articles that could be autoposted while I went “away” so that I could focus on myself alone for a while, and. . .

After leaving my earlier
See You In September post . . .

I attempted to abandon my hyper-focus on current endeavors to investigate a single question:

What do I want to DO with the rest of
the minutes of my life, given the options
now available to me.

I’m coming to believe that is NOT the question that will yield fruit for me.

  • I am not unsatisfied with what I DO. In fact, I love what I do.
  • I believe it is a large part of what I’m here TO do – my purpose, if you will.
  • Secure in that awareness, I suppose I am more fortunate than many who are still trying to figure out what they are here to DO.

Different questions, different directions

I have come to believe that I need to focus more on my “environment,” so to speak

  • WHO I do it for and with
  • Under what circumstances
  • WHERE I AM while I am doing it
  • What is missing from my experience of doing what I love, and
  • How I’m going to keep a roof over my head
    and food in my belly while I am doing it.

I am, and will be, sharing my process because I now believe that is the crux of life satisfaction for YOU, too.

But whether you find value in the sharing or not, and whether or you ever let me know whether or not you do, it helps me process to write it down and share it. And so I will.

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What IS Time?

FlameChallengeTimeThe Concept of TIME

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
2013 World Science Festival’s Flame Challenge Video

“As far as we can tell, time is a subjective experience, 
and timekeeping was just invented
to keep people from missing trains.”
~ Jonathan Strickland

ADDers everywhere are dancing in the streets! 

It turns out that we have been right about time all along – it doesn’t really exist.
Universal Time, Standard Time, clock synchronization – it’s ALL an illusion!

No wonder we’ve always had such a tough time with with the concept.

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Halloween & Global ADD-Awareness MONTH in October

globe2_100Let’s Kick ADD Awareness
into HIGH Gear

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CMC, SCAC, MCC
Another of the What Kind of World do YOU Want? Series

Unwrap the Facts: ADD/HD Can Affect ANYONE – ANY age

Cute graphic of a figure costumed as wrapped mummy ©Phillip Martin - artist/educator

The theme of this year’s ADDvocacy efforts is “The Many Faces of ADHD.”

As Canadian ADD Coach and ADDvocate Pete Quilly reminds everyone:

and if THATdoesn’t break your heart,
Click HERE for Heartbreaking New York Times article

  • There are many problems with ADD/ADHD but also many advantages of ADD/ADHD if properly managed (which REQUIRES understanding it properly, IMHO.)

THAT’s why raising awareness of ADD/ADHD is so important!!!

calendar-2013-octoberADD Awareness MONTH?!

In 2013, the “official” (and long-standing)
ADD-ADHD Awareness Week is
Sunday, October 13th thru Saturday, October 19th.

Canadian ADHD Awareness Week is October 14th to 20th 2013.

  • But when have ADDers ever limited themselves to
    “inside the box” actions and activities?
  • We’re taking the whole MONTH!

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Black and White Make-wrong

One of The Black & White articles from The Challenges Inventory™ Series
Foundational Concepts of the Intentionality Series: Opinions vs. Facts

Blog Belittlement — yet not here!

© by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

A overdue THANK YOU
to my Readership!

NEWS TO KNOW — in the over two years of this blog’s life (born, essentially, in March 2011), I have gotten only THREE comments that crossed the line separating disagreeable from disagreement.

(Not counting, that is, whatever is inside the thousands of auto-spammed comments I’ve never seen — caught by the Akismet spam filter on this blog — check out the spam counter near the top of the skinny column to your right.)

Think about that for a moment.

From YouTube to The Huffington Post — to Scientific American, for heaven’s sakes — the comments section seems to be developing into little more than a place to indulge in a snide and sarcastic form of cyber-bullying, discounting entire articles and comments from others with a sneering couple of words that add nothing but nastiness.

Sadly, many sites have felt the need to disconnect the comments feature because of the abject churlishness of the comments that have been posted. Moderating and editing thousands of comments can be a tedious task indeed — NOBODY has the time to sift through and delete all that stuff when the “trolls” and haters decide to descend.

  • YET on, where the readership make-up is primarily those whom we would expect to have more than a few issues with impulsivity (and more than a few frustrations to take out on the closest available victim), it is practically non-existent.
  • WE seem to be a community of civilized, respectful and supportive, grateful-for-anything-that-might-help band of brethren.

How cool is THAT!?

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ABOUT The ADD/HD All-Expert Consensus Statement


ADD History and Education

from Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

“Those who cannot remember the past
are condemned to repeat it”

~ George Santayana (1863-1952)
from “Life of Reason

ADD Consensus Statement

Even as they struggle, desperate for information, help and understanding, MOST ADDers remain blissfully ignorant of the existence of the document reproduced below, much less the information that is contained within it.

Far too many ADD Professionals across several fields are unaware of it as well.

MOST will probably remain so.

‘Sup with that?

I truly can’t understand why even one single ADDer would NOT take the time to make sure they printed out a personal copy of this document and make it their business to distribute it widely.

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