Cincinnati Memorial Services: Kate Kelly

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CMC, SCAC, MCC

Kate’s Memorial Service

will be at Garden Park Unity
in Cincinnati, Ohio on
Saturday, October 13th, 2012. 

The time is tentatively set for
4:00 pm
followed by a celebration of Kate’s life in the Clifton home of one of Kate’s dear friends.


For those who would like to make a donation in Kate’s honor, information about how to do that will follow once we are able to set things up.

Please pass it on

As our planning proceeds and we HAVE more details in place, I will post them here on, with logistical details on the site set up for that purpose.

With my apologies to readers for whom this information is not relevent, that I believe a great many WILL find it so drives my decision to post Memorial details here on

Caring Bridge Info:

For those who are not aware of Kate’s CaringBridge  and would like to be one of the almost 4,000 messages left there, here is how you do that

  1. Go to (with http:// first, right?)
  2. Create a username & password for the site itself “prompt will read ‘creatorsignin’
  3. When asked which Caring Bridge, use Kate’s first and last name, no spaces.  (Spammers have NO ethics, so please do NOT post the link in any way they can harvest with spambots)
  4. site directions are simple, just read them:
    * the Journal is where we talk to YOU & post updates (you can choose to receive email update notices)
    * the Guestbook is where you leave thoughts and consolations
    * you can see everything posted since January by clicking around, along with a number of photos.



ASAP, we need a tentative head-count to plan a great many things, transportation and housing, as well as Memorial Service logistics.

So  – whether OR NOT it is a certainty at this point –  if you would like to attend and believe it would be possible for you to work it out to do so,  please send an email to <coach peggy ramundo — gmail dot com>, cc: <mgh at add coach dot com> (no brackets, no spaces, replace “–” and “dot” with symbols)

Please do NOT RSVP regrets – we understand that you would ALL be there if you could remain balanced and work it all out, but we simply cannot manage additional email along with everything else.

HOW to respond: 

I apologize for the apparent complexity of the following words, but it will simplify things greatly for Peggy and myself if you would please take the time and attention to follow the directions below, maintaining the order and numbering system.

Due to the sheer numbers in Kate’s loving community and the short time-frame in which to handle MANY details (while we also try to keep our own lives together somewhat ;|), we simply do not have time for clarifying  back and forth communication in any fashion other than the one we have set up.

Please try to understand that we are juggling a lot of details in our attempt to serve ALL concerned in an environment where a great many, including ourselves, are managing ADD — and we, too, are grieving.

Exceptions are time consuming – we can only automate with your help.


BEGIN your subject line withKate’s Memorial

INSIDE the email:

1. Your first and last name & phone number with area code & time zone (just in case – don’t expect a call right now)

2. How many in your party?

3. If you will be driving, how many can your car seat?

4. Will you need a place to stay? 

a. for which nights and
b. your TOP budget per night (so we can choose one hotel/motel to take advantage of group rates)

5. Certainty scale: 

5 = I will move heaven and earth to BE there;
1 = there is a lot to line up so I may not actually be able to come, even though I really want to and will try my darndest to work it out.
(Use numbers 2-4 to indicate degrees of that continuum – let us know the minute YOU know that you will be coming for sure, using the format above (copied or edited as necessary), with Kate’s Memorial: coming in the email’s subject line)

Please keep her family and her multitude of friends in your prayers, as will we. We would also appreciate it if you could forward this information to anyone I might have left out, or to those I might not know. Thank you.

Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CMC, SCAC, MCC
– cofounder of the ADD Coaching field –
(blogging at ADDandSoMuchMore and ADDerWorld – dot com!)
“It takes a village to transform a world!”

Kate Kelly Related Articles
(each below opens in a new window/tab)

Memorial Posts of Others

PLEASE leave me a comment if YOU have written a Memorial Post (or find one not listed here), so that I don’t have to take time daily to search the ‘net to find links to post for ALL to share.
Thank you.

About Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
Award-winning ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching field co-founder; [life] Coaching pioneer -- Neurodiversity Advocate, Coach, Mentor & Poster Girl -- Multi-Certified -- 25 years working with EFD [Executive Functioning disorders] and struggles in hundreds of people from all walks of life. I developed and delivered the world's first ADD-specific coach training curriculum: multi-year, brain-based, and ICF Certification tracked. In addition to my expertise in ADD/EF Systems Development Coaching, I am known for training and mentoring globally well-informed ADD Coach LEADERS with the vision to innovate, many of the most visible, knowledgeable and successful ADD Coaches in the field today (several of whom now deliver highly visible ADD coach trainings themselves). For almost a decade, I personally sponsored and facilitated seven monthly, virtual and global, no-charge support and information groups The ADD Hours™ - including The ADD Expert Speakers Series, hosting well-known ADD Professionals who were generous with their information and expertise, joining me in my belief that "It takes a village to educate a world." I am committed to being a thorn in the side of ADD-ignorance in service of changing the way neurodiversity is thought about and treated - seeing "a world that works for everyone" in my lifetime. Get in touch when you're ready to have a life that works BECAUSE of who you are, building on strengths to step off that frustrating treadmill "when 'wanting to' just doesn't get it DONE!"

4 Responses to Cincinnati Memorial Services: Kate Kelly

  1. Madelyn, I’ve tried to respond several times, and it’s either WordPress or Me! I choose WordPress!:) My condolences for the loss of your father last week, your dear friend Kate, and the unnamed significant other in your life.

    It’s time you give yourself the ME WEEK, and take care of #1. It’s time that HELPER’S DISEASE, means HELP YOURSELF to grieve and recover from all your losses. It’s time to take care of YOU! What’s wrong with 7 days. That will pale in comparison if you would become ill simply because you didn’t take much needed time off. Don’t look for excuses. There is nothing more important then your HEALTH and LIFE! Schedule the time off and know it is long over due.
    I love your diagnosis of “Helper’s Disease” it sure identifies so many we know doesn’t it? I bet it’s at least 90% females. Do you think it’s gender specific?

    The thing about “Helper’s Disease”, in situations that are difficult we pull through with the power of prayer and the ability to keep helping others. Maybe that is God’s will to have “Helper’s Disease” to provide us direction in life. He is the real physician and healer.

    Please take the time to reflect, grieve, and recover from these significant losses. I am keeping you in thought and prayer. Take care and stay safe, Edie


    • Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC says:

      Thank you, Edie – the way things have been falling apart around us for the last 2 days, I may need to take a YEAR off after everyone goes home (kidding?)

      Thanks for the strong advice – not that I don’t KNOW that, but I was beginning to wonder. I’m getting feedback from “the universe” that maybe I’m an emotional weakling or something!

      As things continue to fall apart around us, its amazing how many people think we can add MORE (“Yes, I know it must be done, but can’t it wait until next week?” “Not really, it will only take a couple of hours” — 20 minutes/10 minutes –or, It’s JUST one person/email/phonecall — whatever!

      Something I have been complaining about for several MONTHs all of a sudden it must happen NOW (but I don’t have to be home – they can use a pass key — YEA, RIGHT – like I was planning to CLEAN this week!?)

      Fortunately, our students and clients have been wonderfully understanding about last minute changes and ADD oopses, or I don’t think I’d MAKE it to Friday nite (when we hope to have all done so that we can get some sleep before the service Saturday so we have some reserves).

      With an all-ADD crowd (well, *mostly* ADD), you KNOW there will be last-minute panic – and guess who they’ll look to for answers and explanations? So when the inevetible happens we want to be rested enough to be able to fix whatever without killing whoever it is that needs time and attention because THEY waited until the last moment to plan – or to have that really great idea they need information to actuate (don’t worry, they will do it — Oh sure, like Lambchop can do much while Sherry Lewis does *anything* else.

      NEXT lifetime, I think I am going to put in a reservation for a nice, boring, neurotypical community. 😉 Right now, it sounds kinda’ peaceful.

      Thanks for the kind words — I KNOW you can relate to the madness surrounding me (not to mention that caused by my own ADD, etc.) This too shall pass, right?



  2. keurawa says:

    What a beautiful tribute! I read and enjoy your posts regularly. Please note that my site has changed, – am now at


    • Thanks for letting me (and all of us) know about your site address change – and for acknowleding this post.

      My Tribute to Kate, however, has yet to be written. Until the Memorial is behind us, I doubt I’ll have the cognitive bandwidth (or time!) to do the task proud (as they say in the South). There is no time “beyond,” however, so I imagine it will be ok with Kate whenever.

      Thanks again for stopping by.


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