Thoughts of Healing on September 11, 2012

Healing the Divided Mind

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Part of the What Kind of World do YOU Want? series
[link to videos by Deepak Chopra below]

Several standing appointments were cancelled today — unexpected and unplanned time to reflect made suddenly available.

I spent some of that time on FaceBook, catching up and connecting with friends and colleagues whom I have inadvertently neglected in the scramble to keep up with the requirements of events that have surrounded me since January.

It was NOT an ordinary day.

I knew there would be a great many posts telling their stories, and expressing gratitude that their loved ones had been spared.

I knew, as well, that many would take time and care in their expressions of empathy and love for those who were not so blessed.

  • expected to see expressions of unhealed pain, loss and grief –
    which I found.
  • I also expected more than a few expressions of anger –
    which I also found.

I was unprepared for the expressions of revenge and retribution.

ALL of us who are able simply must continue to put energy into healing this wound that is gaping still – in America and in other countries affected by retribution-inspired violence.

We will NEVER forget, but the only way inject meaning into this senseless act of violence (and those that came before and those that followed), is to come to a place where we can experience our feelings without BEING our feelings: taking a STAND for Peace, and sourcing our actions from that stand.

Counting on our “kids” to clean up the mess

Some of you are aware that I lost my sister Jaye and brother-in-law Don to cancer in the last few years. What you may not remember is that they left behind two fine young men to make their way in life without them.

How are they doing?  

Judging from what I just saw posted on FaceBook, they are doing better than many of their elders.

I couldn’t be prouder of their magnificent parents for instilling, in their short lives, solid values of love and compassion in their offspring  – and I couldn’t be prouder of their youngest for having the courage to post the sentiment below, opening himself to flak from many in his “young” community.

Posted on FaceBook by my youngest nephew, Elijah Catrone

Love and Respect for our Troops

The only thing I would add to the words above would be a special acknowledgment of the brave young men and women sent by their elders to participate in the horrors of war — on EVERY side of this war and every war — and those they are sending still.

Other casualties include the soldiers’ families and friends who are left behind to cope with life without them, fearing for the safety of their loved-ones with every breath they take, many who may forever mourn the loss of these amazing lives.

Regardless of how we feel about this war – or ANY war – we must ALWAYS honor the bravery of our troops and the sacrifices of their families.

The post Viet Nam war travesties must never be allowed to occur again.

Healing our World in OUR Lifetimes

This 9/11 video by Deepak Chopra touched my heart — click the photo to hear what he has to say

The link to the video will open on YouTube in a new window/tab.

If you will allow it to open your heart to
the Truth of his words,
I’m sure it will also touch yours.

See also: link below to a shorter video,
perhaps even more impactful
Deepak says, “I will” on 9/11

where he says the following:

“I believe that Love without action is meaningless,
 — and action without Love is irrelevant.” ~ Deepak Chopra

Related 9/11 Articles ’round the ‘net
[links below open in a new window or tab – depending on your browser settings]

About Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
Award-winning ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching field co-founder; [life] Coaching pioneer -- Neurodiversity Advocate, Coach, Mentor & Poster Girl -- Multi-Certified -- 25 years working with EFD [Executive Functioning disorders] and struggles in hundreds of people from all walks of life. I developed and delivered the world's first ADD-specific coach training curriculum: multi-year, brain-based, and ICF Certification tracked. In addition to my expertise in ADD/EF Systems Development Coaching, I am known for training and mentoring globally well-informed ADD Coach LEADERS with the vision to innovate, many of the most visible, knowledgeable and successful ADD Coaches in the field today (several of whom now deliver highly visible ADD coach trainings themselves). For almost a decade, I personally sponsored and facilitated seven monthly, virtual and global, no-charge support and information groups The ADD Hours™ - including The ADD Expert Speakers Series, hosting well-known ADD Professionals who were generous with their information and expertise, joining me in my belief that "It takes a village to educate a world." I am committed to being a thorn in the side of ADD-ignorance in service of changing the way neurodiversity is thought about and treated - seeing "a world that works for everyone" in my lifetime. Get in touch when you're ready to have a life that works BECAUSE of who you are, building on strengths to step off that frustrating treadmill "when 'wanting to' just doesn't get it DONE!"

6 Responses to Thoughts of Healing on September 11, 2012

  1. annieller says:

    Remembering 9/11:
    praying that our memories lead us to seek redemption, healing, restoration, forgiveness, goodness, love, peace, truth and change in all and for all; gratitude to all that was given, remembrance and respect for all that was lost, and commitment to whatever is ours to be and do.

    Thank you Madelyn for this wonderful message and all the links included.


    • What a lovely prayer/affirmation. Thank you for posting it HERE (and thanks for the thanks – you are a champion appreciator!)

      Whoa! Just noticed, Annie – YOU ARE GETTING YOUR GRAVITAR WORKING. Yea! (it works on my “recent comments” drop-down, but I notice it’s not working on the page for ALL to see.)

      I love the plant I see “backstage” – a seedling sprouting – the perfect metaphor for coaching – with a top-notch appreciator as the gardener. I’ll bet your clients are (and will be) encouraged to grow strong and resilient.


  2. Marcella Rousseau says:

    Thank you Madelyn for listing my blog for the post commemorating 9/11.

    The Healing Fields really did help me. I wish more people knew about it. I know there are still people suffering, grieving. A Healing Field can be held in any town.

    I could have written in my blog about more dramatic incidents that effected me but I chose to let it rest, especially because a few times when I did talk about it, it seemed like it became a competition as to who suffered more! I don’t want any part of that. I had hurt enough without that being added to it. We all have/had our cross to bear for that day. I’m with you in supporting each other.

    Thank you for posting a photo of the twin towers in the skyline. That’s the only New York skyline as far as I’m concerned. My ex-husband’s uncle used to refer to them as the two bars of butter. I remember that now with affection. Little did we know then that they would melt like two bars of butter! Thanks again : – )
    mgh note: I edited the format of Marcella’s post to make it a bit easier for those of you who struggle with reading to skip “from rock to rock.” I did NOT change her words.


    • Dear Marcella,

      It is my priviledge to feature your post. Thank you for taking the time to create it.

      The more I learn about the brain, the more convinced I am of the value of reaching out to each other in support — and in the value of telling our stories to one another. Our brains crave connection. We get “weird” – often hostile – in isolation. It’s so hard to hold on to universal love without validation of our own humanity through our joint gift of time to be the “container” for the hearts of others, if only for a moment.

      In my experience, it’s not so much a “contest” of suffering as much as the appearance of competition, simply because we are all so eager to connect and share Since we do it too seldom, we don’t really know how to pass the “talking stick” in ways that don’t sound like we are trying to “best” one another. We are ALL so eager to know and be known.

      Our cave ancestors gathered nightly around the fire. When few of humanity could read, our oral tradition was strong. And now we blog. We all want to know and be known – I believe it is “programmed” into our brain’s “software.”

      It is no accident, in my mind, that internet technology is evolving to make it easier and easier to “bear witness.” We can now press a button to “like” or “share” — more easily, actually, than sending that perfect card or writing a quick email.

      Sometimes ALL we can do for each other is bear witness — and sometimes that alone is exactly what each of us needs to heal.

      Perhaps next year you will feel the need to peel another layer of your onion and share a bit more of your experience and your humanity – perhaps not. But don’t you believe for a moment that YOUR pain is yours alone. I promise you that when you tell your story, you help others to tell their own — and when we all feel “heard” our planet will begin to heal.

      Thank YOU for your part in the healing. Keep in touch.



  3. keurawa says:

    Thank you for a beautiful commemoration of 9/11, and thank you for linking to my blog, I’m humbled! Your site is amazing!


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