When the Going Gets TOUGH


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Inspiration to Live On

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Part of the What Kind of World do YOU Want? series

I heard today from “N” — a long-ago client who has since become a close friend, colleague, and confidant.

She was not in a good place

She has been close enough to see the woman behind the STAND that I have taken for my life.

She has been close enough for long enough to have seen repeatedly that my life has been more difficult in many ways than many of you could ever imagine.

She knows I’ve been exactly where she is today, so she called to ask a single question, even though she phrased it many different ways:

  • How do you DO it?  How do you ‘keep the faith’ that you’re on your pathway?  
  • How do you manage to return mean words kindly? (or to continue to do all you do in those times when all people seem to see is what you DON’T do?)
  • How do you keep on keeping on, when you are ready to chuck it ALL?
  • I can’t DO it anymore? Please talk me down off the ledge.

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Running Your Practice so it Doesn’t Run YOU


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by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Part 1 in the Practice Management Series

FIRST, Get a Mentor Coach —

Flying coachless is doing it the hard way

Coaches who get professionally mentored get up and running faster than those who use the “lone ranger” approach — up to 4 times faster. (According to Thomas Leonard, founder of Coach U – which trains non-ADD coaches).  

They make more money, attract and keep more clients, and have more satisfaction with their practices.

No Kidding!

Even though I refer to Thomas’ statement quite a lot NOW, I wasn’t sure if I believed it when I first read it in the early ’90s

I wasn’t totally convinced when I mentored with him, when I heard the words come out of his very own mouth in his typical “just what’s so” charge-neutral fashion — but I certainly embrace it whole-heartedly now!

It not only turns out to be true with “vanilla” coaches, it seems especially true in the ADD Coaching field.

  • The added accountability certainly helps us follow-through, so days don’t turn into weeks, months or years of “meant to but never did.”
  • The “externalized pre-frontal cortex” dynamic, to keep rumination at bay is essential.
  • And nobody could fail to appreciate the “Sherpa” component — unless the only way they can learn is through repeated recovery from mistakes that could have been avoided.
  • The primary value of Mentor Coaching, however, seems to be its “Challenging” feature: on our own, we seem to set smaller goals to keep from overwhelming ourselves with “over-the-top” inhumanly unrealistic ones.

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Cincinnati Memorial Services: Kate Kelly


by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CMC, SCAC, MCC

Kate’s Memorial Service

will be at Garden Park Unity
in Cincinnati, Ohio on
Saturday, October 13th, 2012. 

The time is tentatively set for
4:00 pm
 (Eastern)
followed by a celebration of Kate’s life in the Clifton home of one of Kate’s dear friends.

NO FLOWERS PLEASE

For those who would like to make a donation in Kate’s honor, information about how to do that will follow once we are able to set things up.

Please pass it on

As our planning proceeds and we HAVE more details in place, I will post them here on ADDandSoMuchMore.com, with logistical details on the CaringBridge.org site set up for that purpose.

With my apologies to readers for whom this information is not relevent, that I believe a great many WILL find it so drives my decision to post Memorial details here on ADDandSoMuchMore.com.

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Free ADD Coach Training: 5 Short Weeks to a Major Shift



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Avoiding the Holes in the Road, # 2

Drawing of a businessman in a suit, carrying a briefcase, about to fall into a hole because he does not notice that the manhole cover has been left off the manhole (he is reading)

An Oldie but Goodie
Adaptation by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

 originally, Autobiography In Five Short Chapters
by Porsche Nelson (Al-Anon ACOA)
with gratitude to Glen Hogard for the source –
see his comment (below) for still more

This article is an ADD Coaching reframe of a story that has been passed around in productivity circles for years — you may have heard it with “5 Chapters” instead of “5 Weeks.”

With a few tweaks, it’s not only a great training tool, it is a perfect illustration of the dynamic in an effective ADD Coaching relationship.

Free Coach Training:

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Brain Science Podcast: REALLY Good Stuff!



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MORE than Brain Basics

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Another article in the Brain Based Resources Series

Are you aware of Dr. Ginger Campbell‘s Brain Science Podcast? If you are not already listening, you are missing an AMAZING resource. The series itself is absolutely free, and can also be downloaded to play on another device without charge. (Donations are appreciated, for those who can swing it).

Don’t Like to Listen?

The transcript of each episode is available in pdf format for a measly dollar, for those of you who prefer to READ (or for those who want them BOTH!)

The most recent 25 episodes are FREE. Additional premium content, including episode transcripts and older episodes, is available via our Premium Subscription Plan. Individual Episodes and transcripts can be purchased in the BSP Store. – See more at: http://brainsciencepodcast.com/faq#sthash.LBZA0eOL.dpuf
The most recent 25 episodes are FREE. Additional premium content, including episode transcripts and older episodes, is available via our Premium Subscription Plan. Individual Episodes and transcripts can be purchased in the BSP Store. – See more at: http://brainsciencepodcast.com/faq#sthash.LBZA0eOL.dpuf
The most recent 25 episodes are FREE. Additional premium content, including episode transcripts and older episodes, is available via our Premium Subscription Plan. Individual Episodes and transcripts can be purchased in the BSP Store. – See more at: http://brainsciencepodcast.com/faq#sthash.LBZA0eOL.dpuf

If you prefer to listen to the interviews, it can be even easier for some of you: THERE’S AN AP FOR THAT!   

You read that correctly – you can EVEN listen on your smart phone. If you want to stream to your cell, the ap is available for an extremely reasonable charge.

In her own words:

On the Brain Science Podcast we explore how recent scientific discoveries are unraveling age-old mysteries, such as intelligence, emotions, personality, and memory. We also look at why the brain is much more complex than any computer yet devised.

Since the podcast launched, I have had the opportunity to interview quite a few leading scientists and writers and the show has been ranked #1 on iTunes™.

There are now over 70+ 96+ 107 112 127 interview episodes available, and the Brain Science Podcast has enjoyed well over 2 million downloads.

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Update: 
Since January, 2014 there has been a slight change, to help Ginger offset web fees and the costs associated with pdf transcription and the production of the podcast.

  • The most recent 25 episodes are STILL free (that’s over two years of free content!)
  • Additional premium content, including access to ALL episode transcripts and older episodes, is available by enrolling in her Premium Subscription Plan.
  • For archived podcasts, individual Episodes and transcripts can be purchased at a VERY modest cost in the BSP Store.  (I happily pay $1.00 for my pdf downloads these days — they’re more than worth it!)
    BSP Store.

So let’s take a look at the kind of interviews she produces.

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Overfocusing: Cognitive Inflexibility and the Cingulate Gyrus


Stubborn? or Stuck!!

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

A bit of Review to Catch You Up

As I said in the previous article entitled ODD & Oppositional Rising: Most of us know somebody who seems to have an argument for just about everything — somebody who almost always has to “go through NO to get to yes.”

I likened those individuals to old television sets with stuck channel changers (way back before the days of remote controls).

Almost ALL of us, I addedADD or not, have a small  — perfectly “normal” — part of our personalities that balks unless a task or idea is totally appealing in the moment we are “supposed” to take it on.

We don’t WANT to change the channel — we want things to keep on being the way we thought they were going to be – NOW!

ADD and Oppositional Rising

A subset of those who qualify for an ADD diagnosis seems, a bit more than average, to struggle with changing that channel. (be sure to click ODD and Oppositional Rising for more on the concept)

A subset of individuals who do NOT qualify for an ADD diagnosis struggle similarly.

  • ADD or NOT, these individuals are not diagnosically Oppositional Defiant [ODD], but it can try your patience mightily to work and live with these guys.
  • In the previous article, I explained why I referred to that change-averse group as being at the effect of ODD Rising.

In THIS article, we’re going to take a look at what being “stuck” looks like, and to begin to look at what has to happen in our brain to be ready-willing-and-ABLE to “change our minds,” which is not too very different (in concept) from changing a channel on an old television set.

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Kate Kelly – A New Star in the Sky


Dancing with the Angels

This will probably be the shortest post I will ever write.

The Spirit of my dear friend and colleague
Kate Kelly left her body last night.

Since, along with more spiritually-based reasons, I have always assured students and clients that, “In heaven, everyone gets to have ADD,” we can be comforted that she is most certainly among those who understand her perfectly and appreciate her fully.

Among MANY other things, Kate is the co-author, with Peggy Ramundo, of the early ADD classic, since updated: You Mean I’m NOT Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! 

It will take a bit more time for me to assimilate all that has happened since January, when we suddenly became aware, quite dramatically, that Kate was battling Stage-4 bladder cancer. 

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Thoughts of Healing on September 11, 2012


Healing the Divided Mind

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Part of the What Kind of World do YOU Want? series
[link to videos by Deepak Chopra below]

http://www.floating-world.org/warnings.htm

Several standing appointments were cancelled today — unexpected and unplanned time to reflect made suddenly available.

I spent some of that time on FaceBook, catching up and connecting with friends and colleagues whom I have inadvertently neglected in the scramble to keep up with the requirements of events that have surrounded me since January.

It was NOT an ordinary day.

I knew there would be a great many posts telling their stories, and expressing gratitude that their loved ones had been spared.

I knew, as well, that many would take time and care in their expressions of empathy and love for those who were not so blessed.

  • expected to see expressions of unhealed pain, loss and grief –
    which I found.
  • I also expected more than a few expressions of anger –
    which I also found.

I was unprepared for the expressions of revenge and retribution.

ALL of us who are able simply must continue to put energy into healing this wound that is gaping still – in America and in other countries affected by retribution-inspired violence.

We will NEVER forget, but the only way inject meaning into this senseless act of violence (and those that came before and those that followed), is to come to a place where we can experience our feelings without BEING our feelings: taking a STAND for Peace, and sourcing our actions from that stand.

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Brain-Based Coaching Secrets Beat Back Overwhelm Q&A


Getting Over Overwhelm:
Free Q&A Round Two

(Decription of the  Early Summer’s TeleClass and Link to replay below)

OVERWHELM!
NOT just for ADDers!

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Dr. Monique Y Wells and I are SO excited about our mutual decision to open our follow-on Brain-based Q&A TeleClass to ANYONE-and-EVERYONE who wants or needs a bit of help Getting Over Overwhelm — our gift, no charge to you.

AND, we’ve decided to make the replay of the original call available below, so everyone can review it (and those of you who missed it can listen as well) — absolutely free, but ONLY until September 27th, the day of the SECOND ROUND of live Q&As.

Keep a pad and pencil handy!

I’ll be taking questions about the content of the first call [replay below] AS WELL AS using what I’ve learned about overwhelm, attention, activation, and the brain to answer your questions about what’s going on in your lives, the lives of your loved ones, even the lives of your clients – whether you have diagnostic ADD or NOT!

CLICK HERE to register NOW to call in for this Q&A
on THIS Thursday, September 13, 2012.

DON’T MISS IT!

CLICK HERE to Register NOW!
for ROUND 2 – September 27 at 4 pm Eastern!

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Feel Good Video – Well Deserved


by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Part of the What Kind of World do YOU Want? Series

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful citizens
can change the world.
Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

~ Margaret Mead

Phillip Martin – artist, educator, advocate

Martin is the heartwarmingly generous and world-changing artist and educator who created (and has allowed me to use) the adorable graphics that accompany the majority of my posts here on ADDandSoMuchMore.com.

Changing the World, One Wall at a Time

He ALSO travels the world to stimulate cities, towns and villages to work and play together on a project  that inspires positive community involvement as a tool for change.

He does this by creating highly visible artwork with their children — painting murals on the walls of their schools, abandoned buildings, and other places where art can make a difference (at his own expense).

Don’t you love it when the GOOD guys get the press?

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CaringBridge / Kate Kelly / Journal


CHECK OUT THE PHOTO!

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CMC, SCAC, MCC

A “Reblog” of sorts: for those of you who know Kate Kelly (or know of her as co-author, with Peggy Ramundo, of You Mean I’m NOT Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!), who are not hooked in with her CaringBridge site.

I don’t want to leave anyone who loves her unaware of where things stand with her health.

I also want those of you who read this blog, even if you are not part of Kate’s vast circle of ADD buds, to get the benefit of some of my insights during this time of transition.

Contemplations of this type are as ephemeral as life itself — in our faces whenever they float across our cognitive view-finders, fading quickly as soon as all returns to “normal,” only to return suddenly, startling us as if we’d never had the thoughts before.

We must all learn, somehow, to take advantage of any opportunity to be hit in the solar plexis with what we know in our gut: it’s all over far too quickly.

(Skip the early “logistics” paragraphs if you are unfamiliar with Kate — scroll down to “Little Details” to begin reading)

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This Changes Everything: Cutting Edge Brain Info


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Dr. Charles Parker Does it Again!

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Another article in the Brain Based Resources Series

I promise that I’m not in Charlie Parker’s employ — we’re simply kindred spirits on the Learning to drive the very brain you were born with™ pathway, so I reference him A LOT!

So what did Parker do? He scooped me, as they say in the journalistic trade – publishing a story before this reporter could make it happen.

Usually out in front with the latest, his recent article — ADHD Insights: Glia Matters (subtitled, ADHD Evolution: Understanding the Other, Glial Brain) — includes an eighteen and a half minute video of a TED talk by PhD, Douglas Fields. Fields is the author of The Other Brain,  a book about a type of brain cell you probably haven’t heard a lot about up to now. But you WILL!

Cutting edge and right on the money where Brain-based Coaching is concerned, recent discoveries about glial cells point the way to a new frontier in cognitive neuroscience. Let’s see if I can catch you up a bit.

Neurons and Neuroglia

Science has believed for some time that the central nervous system consists of two main types of brain cells: neurons and glial cells [neuroglia]. Neuron-rich portions of the brain look greyish to our eyes because of capillary blood vessels and neuronal cell bodies — thus the brain’s nickname you have undoubtedly heard many times: “grey matter.

Since the heaviest neuron concentration is located in the cortex (that extremely shallow, wrinkly outer covering that was the last to develop in the human brain), many people expect to hear that brain cells are generally grey in color.  Nope!

Neurons – the building blocks of our “grey” matter – make up only about 15% of the cells that contribute to the structure of our brains.  As we move deeper into the brain, rich in neuroglia, white matter dominates (which actually, until it is preserved in formaldehyde, looks a pinkish white to our eyes.)

Athough glial cells dramatically outnumber neurons, it has long been thought that the two most referenced types of neurogia were primarily “support” structures. Their primary function, so we thought, was to protect the rest of the brain cells by adding structure (oligodendrocytes) and taking away waste products (astrocytes, or astroglia). Processing and cognition has long been associated with grey matter alone.

Recent research indicates that the brain cells making up our brains white matter (including their microglia buddies) have a whole lot more to do with a number of functions than was previously suspected.

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