An open letter to my readers and the advertisers I just realized are using this site to promote their products:

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

I author a no-fee WordPress Blog on

I can’t opt out of your ads – I get that.

Your right to [attempt to] sell to me exceeds my rights in total.  I get that.

You’ve PAID for the privilege.

  • Our world has devolved to the place where cash is king.
  • I must learn to live with that, regardless of my personal feelings about it.
  • My personal dollars have now become my ONLY personal votes.
    My only choice is where I choose to spend them.
  • I will not buy products from obnoxious advertisers. EVER.

A boycott of ONE, joined by others, which may well build to an internet movement if you and the companies you include in your means of making a profit don’t heed the warning of my words.

I can also purchase and use the products and services of advertisers who deserve my patronage as an acknowledgment of their respect for me and for the value of the time and attention of my readers.

Why this Post?

I am posting this open letter on my blog as a plea to my readers: urging them NOT to click on ANY intrusive advertising inserted on this site
– or any other – and not to use products whose advertisers employ
intrusive tactics.

What would change my feelings toward the advertisers
and their advertisements?


I have no problem with well-done, sensitively placed STATIC advertisements. 

  • They can provide an informational service, especially when targeted.
  • I am an avid magazine reader and ALWAYS read the ads as well as the editorial content.
  • Except for those that attempt to force my attention with those cards that change how the magazine handles, I enjoy them, study them, and often buy products based upon them. (I rip out the cards, throw them away, and note the advertiser only to AVOID buying their products, btw.)

Here’s the difference:
I appreciate advertisers who grant me “respect of choice.”

Moving, blinking, jumping internet ads are like hyperactive two-year-olds l-o-n-g past bedtime.

We love our children, but the ads are obnoxious. Worse than spam.

Your right to [attempt to] sell to me DOES NOT and can not trump my right to focus with intentionality.  At least NOT if you expect me to buy what you’re attempting to sell.

What I DO here

My blog – indeed, my life – is dedicated to individuals with Attention Deficits and Executive Functioning Dysregulation.

  • My readers struggle to stay tracked on the page.
  • Neurologically.
  • They are desperate for help and NEED the information I am willing to GIVE to them on
  • Their ranks will swell as the Baby Boomer generation begins to experience cognitive decline.

I give away far more than I sell.  By choice.  Because I do not create revenue on my blog, I must write on a platform that costs me a great deal of time, but no cash.

And now I learn that all of my economic sacrifices and hours spent optimizing MY blog to promote focus and intentionality have been undercut by YOUR desire to make money from my readers (and the fact that you don’t care whether they can focus on the words they came to read or NOT!)

Based on the tactics employed web-wide, you clearly PREFER that they focus on your advert and, like a whiny child, will do whatever you think will work to FORCE attention.

That’s just wrong.

What’s sad, is that it doesn’t even work to sell enough more widgets to justify its usage.  It simply undercuts intentionality, reduces enjoyment and increases stress and cortisol production.  Neurologically.

But then those of you who use these tactics are like that man standing on a New York street corner waving his arms to keep the tigers away, looking at the dearth of tigers as proof that his method works.

PLEASE:  require your advertisers to settle down and BEHAVE themselves.

ALSO, if you are a blogger who includes ads in your posts or (especially) on your sidebars, make sure you test them in all browsers, and (unless they are paying your entire mortgage) jettison the adverts who don’t bother to test their scripts.  I can’t visit your site if your ads slow down or freeze my browser.  I simply don’t have that kind of time or patience.

Thank you.

UPDATE: I am now paying a fee so that my readers are not subjected to these randomly-placed hateful advertisements.

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About Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
Award-winning ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching field co-founder; [life] Coaching pioneer -- Neurodiversity Advocate, Coach, Mentor & Poster Girl -- Multi-Certified -- 25 years working with EFD [Executive Functioning disorders] and struggles in hundreds of people from all walks of life. I developed and delivered the world's first ADD-specific coach training curriculum: multi-year, brain-based, and ICF Certification tracked. In addition to my expertise in ADD/EF Systems Development Coaching, I am known for training and mentoring globally well-informed ADD Coach LEADERS with the vision to innovate, many of the most visible, knowledgeable and successful ADD Coaches in the field today (several of whom now deliver highly visible ADD coach trainings themselves). For almost a decade, I personally sponsored and facilitated seven monthly, virtual and global, no-charge support and information groups The ADD Hours™ - including The ADD Expert Speakers Series, hosting well-known ADD Professionals who were generous with their information and expertise, joining me in my belief that "It takes a village to educate a world." I am committed to being a thorn in the side of ADD-ignorance in service of changing the way neurodiversity is thought about and treated - seeing "a world that works for everyone" in my lifetime. Get in touch when you're ready to have a life that works BECAUSE of who you are, building on strengths to step off that frustrating treadmill "when 'wanting to' just doesn't get it DONE!"

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  4. Maya Panika says:

    Right on.


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