Can This ADDer Be Saved? – Part 4

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Finding the Right ADD Coach for YOU
— Ten Points from Katy 

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

*”Katy,” “Barb,” and the details of this story are a composite of the process and progress of several ADDers working with the author, to honor the confidentiality of the client/coach alignment and to better illustrate a sense of the ADD Coaching process.

 Click HERE to read PART 3 :” Katy’s Coaching Notebook
(links to ALL below)

Hyper-organized, list-makin’ Katy suggests you make SURE you can answer yes to each of the following ten points as you interview coaches to work with your own precious life.

(“Life is where you find it” Barb says, “Interview, schminterview, go with your gut!”).

My Coach is:

1.  Thoroughly knowledgeable about ADD, especially my kind of ADD.

2.  Able to share information readily.  Never makes me feel “stupid” or “intellectually lazy.”

3.  Someone who never pressures me into a quick decision or makes me feel like it is important to him or her that I take his or her suggestions or agree with anyone else’s point of view.

4.  A good strategizer — can explain a systematized way of working clearly, yet is flexible enough to adapt to my preferences.  My coach may be the expert on Coaching and ADD, but I am the only expert on me and what I need.

5.  A good fit for me — we both enjoy each other’s communication style.  When we don’t communicate completely, s/he requests more information from me or explains him or herself to me in another way.

6.  Willing and able to work in a format that works for me.  If I’m not sure, I have taken the time to  interview at least 3 coaches who work in at least a few of the different formats that appeal to me — email, phone, face-to-face or combination, weekly, brief calls daily, etc.

7.  Someone I can trust — enough to try things s/he suggests and to tell the whole truth, even in areas where I have developed “well-rehearsed cover stories.”  I know s/he needs “nothing but the truth” to tailor the Coaching approach to reflect the results I report, and I feel confident that s/he will keep our sessions strictly confidential.

8.  Truthful but gentle.  I feel in my gut that I can trust my ADD Coach to work with me in a way that keeps me challenged without making me feel shut down or shamed.

9.  An ADD resource, and a source for materials developed especially for ADD and ADD coaching.  She knows how to help me track my medications on a log I can take to my doctor.

10.  A well-trained ADD professional

  • s/he clearly articulates practice standards,
  • reminds me gently when I oops,
  • has well-developed listening skills,
  • endorses more than s/he corrects,
  • always listens from belief, even while s/he articulates a feeling that something seems a little incongruent or “off,” and
  • knows a lot of different ways to get things done!

Both Katy and Barb wish you success in the search for your ADD coach, and send wishes that your days become as enjoyable as theirs.  

If money’s tight, don’t be like Barb.  Check out Peer Coaching Basic Training – don’t let lousy finances keep you from the wild success we ALL deserve!

If you are interested in working with ME, check out the Brain-based Coaching link below.

If you are in the U.S., I will call you to schedule a time to talk — everyone else will get a response by private email, with all of my contacts included — but BE SURE to click the appropriate category or it won’t file correctly and THIS ADD Poster Girl might NEVER find it!

Sorry, but due to the technical skills of spammer narcissists,
I can’t post my email to make the process more ADD-friendly

BY THE WAY – I’ve gotten a lot of positive response about Katy and Barb – so I may be adding new articles to keep you updated on their progress.  You’ll find them in the “Working with an ADD Coach” category (Better yet, sign up for notification so you don’t have to track coming back).

You DO realize that these are not “real” people, right?  Katy and Barb are a compilation of many of the items and issues that many of my clients bring to ADD coaching.

ADD Coaching is STRICTLY confidential.

It would be a violation of client confidentiality to disclose “real client” detail in any manner that might allow anyone to even figure out who I’m talking about.

Response to my male commentors:  I hear you!  If this series continues, we’ll zap a few lucky guys with an ADD diagnosis too; PARENTS and PARTNERS; maybe I’ll bring in a whole ADD family!

Indicate interest in the comments section below.  Meanwhile, I’m spending my time writing articles covering a whole lot more about ADD, Brain-based Coaching, and the entire Attentional Spectrum.

Can this ADDer  be Saved? links below
(The entire coaching story, illustrating how coaching works in narrative format)

As always, if you want notification of new articles in the Coaching Series – or any new posts on this blog – give your email address to the nice form on the top of the skinny column to the right. (You only have to do this once, so if you’ve already asked for notification about a prior series, you’re covered for this one too) STRICT No Spam Policy

If you’d like some one-on-one (or group) coaching help with anything that came up while you were reading this article (either for your own life, that of a loved one, or as coaching skills development), either scroll down to the Brain-Based Coaching link below, or click the E-me link <—here (or on the menubar at the top of every page) and I’ll get back to you ASAP (accent on the “P”ossible!)

Can this ADDer be Saved?
(Entire coaching story, illustrating how coaching works in narrative format)

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BY THE WAY: I revisit all my content periodically to update links — when you link back, like, follow or comment, you STAY on the page. When you do not, you run a high risk of getting replaced by a site with a more generous come-from.

About Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
Award-winning ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching field co-founder; [life] Coaching pioneer -- Neurodiversity Advocate, Coach, Mentor & Poster Girl -- Multi-Certified -- 25 years working with EFD [Executive Functioning disorders] and struggles in hundreds of people from all walks of life. I developed and delivered the world's first ADD-specific coach training curriculum: multi-year, brain-based, and ICF Certification tracked. In addition to my expertise in ADD/EF Systems Development Coaching, I am known for training and mentoring globally well-informed ADD Coach LEADERS with the vision to innovate, many of the most visible, knowledgeable and successful ADD Coaches in the field today (several of whom now deliver highly visible ADD coach trainings themselves). For almost a decade, I personally sponsored and facilitated seven monthly, virtual and global, no-charge support and information groups The ADD Hours™ - including The ADD Expert Speakers Series, hosting well-known ADD Professionals who were generous with their information and expertise, joining me in my belief that "It takes a village to educate a world." I am committed to being a thorn in the side of ADD-ignorance in service of changing the way neurodiversity is thought about and treated - seeing "a world that works for everyone" in my lifetime. Get in touch when you're ready to have a life that works BECAUSE of who you are, building on strengths to step off that frustrating treadmill "when 'wanting to' just doesn't get it DONE!"

6 Responses to Can This ADDer Be Saved? – Part 4

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  3. just checked out your Blog after you kindly linked back mine and i am impressed to find it was a massive resource, thank you for liking my page and bringing it to others attention.


  4. Hello, Madelyn,

    To open…an apology – I’ve just contacted you via your contact form, and was hoping to include the following invitations 🙂

    I hope you don’t mind me contacting you. I came across your blog when you kindly ‘liked’ my post on the brain and cognitive overload. Following the link back to your site I was really chuffed to find your veritable gold mine of resources…around coaching, mentoring, neuroscience, ADD – the whole nine yards. Awesome. So….

    I wonder if I might extend two invitations on behalf of the Ethos online community. The first is an invitation to join the community – it would be brilliant to have your contributions and ideas (and, like yourself, I facilitate the community on a not-for-profit basis, and can promise you will not be bombarded with direct marketing of any type). The community is eclectic with members from all over the world, across all education sectors, as well as from business and ITOs. If you would like to accept the invitation please follow this link – There are a few simple questions – partly for community building, but also as a spam filter 🙂

    The Ethos Online Community also has an invited blogger of the month and I was wondering if I might also invite you to be the blogger for April 2013 (it’s a bit in the future, but it gives you plenty of time to have a think about it 🙂 )? The invitation is:

    – to write a blog post (it can be a cross-post of a blog you have written on your site with links back to the original / other spaces you’d like to share :-p) – about 200 to 400 words -ish
    – you can choose the topic (and controversial always goes down well :-p)
    – you can include at least 2 images / links to CC images
    – it could include a short bio (approx 150-200 words) as well as an image of yourself or something that is meaningful to you

    If you’re keen, please feel free to drop me a line. Absolutely no pressure though…O – and feel free to join the community but not accept the guest blogger invitation if time is an issue :-p

    All the very best for 2013

    Kind regards


    • MIND? I’m honored. Thanks for the kind comments as well. (I think your article is also linked to mine on Cognitive Impairment, if I didn’t get distracted first :|)

      I *just* replied to your e-Me via email – my contacts are included.

      I WILL go “join” — it sounds like my kind of community!

      (Let me know, btw, if you’d like me to delete your link once I do so YOU don’t get inundated with spam).

      Time is ALWAYS an issue, but I’m IN for “blogger of the month” – my ego just swelled to the max for the invite. Thanks for the detail – my preference would be to create something brand new for you – so let me know (via private email) what might be useful.



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