What to Talk About in Your Coaching Call

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Another article in the The ADD Coaching Series

Does your mind go blank . . .

the minute you call for coaching?

Part of the magic of The Client Prep Form is that, in addition to serving  as a session roadmap for you and your coach, it is startle insurance for YOU!

Since ADDers tend to have a hair-trigger startle response that shuts down thinking momentarily, I can’t encourage you strongly enough to develop the habit of USING the Client Prep Form for that reason as much as any other..

To help jumpstart your thinking process for those times you “ADD-out” – including the time it will take to make using the Prep Form a habit – print a copy of the following list and keep it in the front of your coaching notebook.

BY THE WAY . . .

Coaching forms are useful for Peer Coaching relationships too – that’s why I will be making many of them available here on ADDandSoMuchMore.com.

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What to Talk About in Your Coaching Call


  • How you are feeling about yourself – good stuff and bad stuff
  • How you are looking at life in general and your life in particular
  • Your level of confidence about your ability to self-manage ADD affect
  • How your relationships are making ADD self-management easier or more difficult


  • A brief rundown of the highlights of what has occurred to you since the last call
  • Project report (coaching related progress reports are best, but any project worth your time is worth mentioning)
  • Breakthroughs, insights, aha!s
  • New choices, decisions or changes of direction


  • Re-Minder: I’m currently systematizing these meds, at these dosages, at these times
  • Compliance (1-10): how well are you doing remembering to take them?
    (1=What meds? — 10=Like clockwork)
  • Efficacy: How’s it workin’ for you? (Direct effects and “side” effects)
  • Systems: How are you doing what you are doing? (Remembering OR forgetting – where’s the link?)
  • Cause and Effect: Compare the info last section to the info in this one.  Insights?
  • New choices, decisions or changes of direction

Vital: “Don’t try this at home!” Starting, stopping, or changing dosage without your doctor
in the loop is a recipe for trouble!!!  You and your coach discuss these choices, decisions
or changes of direction to help you make things conscious and/or to develop a list to take
to your next appointment.  CALL YOUR DOCTOR before changing a thing!
(It goes without saying that you follow his or her telephone advice until you’re face-to-face
at your next meds appointment, right?)  
And take that list!

*if you are not taking medication, use this section to report on whatever you do to manage ADD
(non-pharmaceutical alternatives, vitamins, diet, sleep, exercise, etc.)


  •  Progress report on current goals, projects and activities
  •  What you’ve done that you are proud of
  •  New systems initiated/integrated that make it easier to manage life with ADD
  •  What you are coming up against you haven’t quite figured out how to handle
  •  System glitches


  • Thinking aloud to help you decide which goal or project to take on next
  • The next concept or distinction to work on or embrace
  • How what you want for yourself next relates to how you see yourself now
  • Fears or concerns about what will happen at the completion of your current project


  • Where you are stuck developing or implementing a plan of action
  • Where you are missing information about ADD that could help you better understand your experiences
  • Where you are missing a distinction or some language
  • A request for help with a strategy
  • A request for advice or an opinion to help you come to a decision
  • Jump-starting or Body Doubling


For more about Peer Coaching click sitelinks below

About Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
Award-winning ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching field co-founder; [life] Coaching pioneer -- Neurodiversity Advocate, Coach, Mentor & Poster Girl -- Multi-Certified -- 25 years working with EFD [Executive Functioning disorders] and struggles in hundreds of people from all walks of life. I developed and delivered the world's first ADD-specific coach training curriculum: multi-year, brain-based, and ICF Certification tracked. In addition to my expertise in ADD/EF Systems Development Coaching, I am known for training and mentoring globally well-informed ADD Coach LEADERS with the vision to innovate, many of the most visible, knowledgeable and successful ADD Coaches in the field today (several of whom now deliver highly visible ADD coach trainings themselves). For almost a decade, I personally sponsored and facilitated seven monthly, virtual and global, no-charge support and information groups The ADD Hours™ - including The ADD Expert Speakers Series, hosting well-known ADD Professionals who were generous with their information and expertise, joining me in my belief that "It takes a village to educate a world." I am committed to being a thorn in the side of ADD-ignorance in service of changing the way neurodiversity is thought about and treated - seeing "a world that works for everyone" in my lifetime. Get in touch when you're ready to have a life that works BECAUSE of who you are, building on strengths to step off that frustrating treadmill "when 'wanting to' just doesn't get it DONE!"

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