Life in the Now Lane

Drawing of a man "stuck" in the top half of an hourglass, while the sands filter past him to below.Now and Not-now

by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC

  • Do it NOW
  • Be Here NOW
  • NOW is the winter of our discontent???

Quite the mixed bag of struggle, all this NOW nonsense.

FIRST, there is my struggle to imprison NOW within the construct of time at all. It’s not willing to surrender peacefully.

Buddhists, Hindus, and ancient spiritual traditions suggest that time itself is man’s presumption – that minutes and seconds and years and eons are nothing more than a progression of accumulated nows, artificially massaged into parts and pieces to temper man’s terror of the infinite.

That works for me!

It certainly explains my life-long boggle over all of those questions to which the only accurate answer I could ever give would be a question-specific tailoring of, “Somewhere in the ether of the not-now, Grasshopper”

But nooooooooo . . . the Time Nazis push for a naming within their paradigm.

  • When did you send that payment?
  • How old were you when that happened?
  • What year did you graduate from college?
  • What time did you go to bed?

As difficult as it has always been for me to attach not-now answers to NUMBERS, at least there are records to hunt down and rifle through for all those not-now-past pairings.

How in the world can I be expected to answer those not-now-future questions?

  • What time will you be ready?
  • When will you be back?
  • When do you plan to finish the dishes?

What went wrong here?

Did everybody else pop out of the womb with second sight or a crystal eight-ball? Besides, if it’s so darned important to stay in the N-O-W, what’s up with all those not-now questions anyway? Isn’t that a conflict of interest or something?

Alas . . . those of us with holographic brains will never understand what passes for logic among the linears.  Do you think those guys really get it themselves, or did they all get together and decide that everyone in the world had to live by some set of rules made up in the long-long-ago-not-now, whether it made any sense or not?

Where was I when that vote was called? Nobody even invited me to the primaries– unless, maybe, the notice got stuck in my spam filter.

My holographic buddies didn’t get invited either. I checked.

Time, death and taxes: the votes were tabulated and ours didn’t count – kinda’ like what happened to those folks in Florida, I suppose.


Too bad they outnumber us. I guess those of us who are holographic thinkers are doomed to the struggle of choreographing our syncopated dances to the measured beat of their drums — at least until enough of them kick the bucket from terminal boredom that we can get a recount on the ballot.

Oh well. All of that is in the not-now-future, and you know how I struggle with THAT!

So much for time travel. I’m going back to my nice, comfortable now.


©The article above  is slated for inclusion in an upcoming ADD article anthology, Turkey Broth for the ADD Spirit.

Madelyn Griffith-Haynie is a certified coaching pioneer, a Senior Certified ADD Coach, co-founder of the ADD Coaching field, and founder and director of The Optimal Functioning Institute™, the world’s first ADD-specific Coach Training.

To have a conversation about Coaching with her, check out the e-me form. (Be sure you check one of the coaching choices, or it won’t land where it’s supposed to in a VERY full inbox.)


About Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, MCC, SCAC
Award-winning ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching field co-founder; [life] Coaching pioneer -- Neurodiversity Advocate, Coach, Mentor & Poster Girl -- Multi-Certified -- 25 years working with EFD [Executive Functioning disorders] and struggles in hundreds of people from all walks of life. I developed and delivered the world's first ADD-specific coach training curriculum: multi-year, brain-based, and ICF Certification tracked. In addition to my expertise in ADD/EF Systems Development Coaching, I am known for training and mentoring globally well-informed ADD Coach LEADERS with the vision to innovate, many of the most visible, knowledgeable and successful ADD Coaches in the field today (several of whom now deliver highly visible ADD coach trainings themselves). For almost a decade, I personally sponsored and facilitated seven monthly, virtual and global, no-charge support and information groups The ADD Hours™ - including The ADD Expert Speakers Series, hosting well-known ADD Professionals who were generous with their information and expertise, joining me in my belief that "It takes a village to educate a world." I am committed to being a thorn in the side of ADD-ignorance in service of changing the way neurodiversity is thought about and treated - seeing "a world that works for everyone" in my lifetime. Get in touch when you're ready to have a life that works BECAUSE of who you are, building on strengths to step off that frustrating treadmill "when 'wanting to' just doesn't get it DONE!"

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