Thursday, May 19, 2011 8 Comments
The Heartbreak Of CRS
© Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
We ALL fall victim to CRS many times throughout our lives – more and more often as we age.
- Many opportunities for advancement and success are lost to CRS.
- CRS devastates self-esteem.
- Sometimes entire lives are ruined when CRS rears its ugly head.
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So Tough on Self-Esteem
It’s bad enough when we can’t recall a name in the middle of an introduction.
It’s worse when we can’t remember where we put our keys when we’re running late.
It’s awful when our minds go blank when we’re taking an exam after we’ve studied long and hard for several nights in a row.
- We are embarrassed when we forget birthdays.
- We feel ditzy when we have to go back into the house several times to check that we turned off the lights, locked the back door, or unplugged the iron.
- We feel stupid when we forget a basic fact we haven’t pulled out of our mental databases for a while – like how to divide fractions or figure percentage, or the spelling of a common word, for example.
- We worry that we might be getting SENILE when we can’t remember entire events – like going to see a specific film with a certain person who is absolutely positive we were there with them, stunned when we still don’t remember once they supply details to support their case.
- If we don’t remember seeing the film at all, we begin to worry about incipient Alzheimer’s!
What’s even worse
The real heartbreak of CRS, however, is that we will never be successful in our lives unless we are able to stay in action toward our goals! If we can’t remember to DO what we intended to do, when we intended to do it, how can we possibly expect to stay in action?
- All of us have times when we are so distracted by other events in our lives that we don’t take the time to write it down – even important stuff.
- THEN there are the times when we aren’t focused enough on our game plans to remember to check our reminders – like the notations in our DateBooks, or the post-it notes we sprinkled around the house to make sure we didn’t forget an important event.
What’s going on here? Are we brain dead?
- Are we too stupid to understand what’s appropriate and what’s necessary?
- Does it mean we don’t take our goals seriously?
- Are we unconsciously sabotaging ourselves?
- Maybe it means we have unconscious conflicts, or fear of failure.
- Maybe its fear of success!
- Perhaps we’re just plain LAZY.
Maybe, just maybe, remembering enough to take action is a factor of a of attention and focus. I would like to make a case for the fact that it IS.
And there’s A LOT to come to help you understand what’s going on and help you learn to work around it — so STAY TUNED (and keep clicking through).
If you’re at all interested in just how bad it could be, check out Remembrance of Selves Past to take a gander at what those of us who’ve been dealing with ADD/EFD glitches all our lives have had to work around.
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Related articles right here on ADDandSoMuchMore.com
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- Maintaining Cognitive Vitality
- How come the bad stuff sticks and the good stuff fades??
- Forgetting and Remembering Part I: When Memory Fails
- Awareness is a Factor of Attention (more on memory)
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- When is a ‘senior moment’ a sign of Alzheimer’s? (bangordailynews.com)
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- Am I having a “senior moment” or am I losing my memory? (monarcaresblog.com)
- I Just Had a Senior Moment. Should I Worry? (aarp.org)
- Senior Moments (Sometimes Longer) (aliadvises.wordpress.com)
- Senior Health: A Healthy Brain (lmb.typepad.com)
- Senior Moments! (worldofmerles.wordpress.com)
- Generation of Boomers and Ys VERY Clever post from theseeker57.wordpress.com
- Forgotten something? Don’t blame your old age: Dismissing ‘senior moments’ may actually make your memory worse (dailymail.co.uk)
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