Wednesday, August 20, 2014
Gettin’ UP and Gettin’ Going – Part I
©Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
Terminal Laziness Disorder?
© Phillip Martin
Thankfully, there’s no such thing, but those of us who struggle with ACTIVATION might beg to differ.
It’s regrettable that there is so little help for us out there, but there you have it!
I believe that a big part of the reason why is that so little is understood about the marked contrast between our “automated” behaviors (which are scarcely available to consciousness) and our highly conscious, “volitional” behavior.
To make things even tougher, ACTIVATION seems to occupy some netherworld between the two states — and I promise you that it is NOT simply a matter of “wanting to badly enough.”
Therapists, doctors (and coaches) who work with ADD and EFD (Executive Functioning Disorders, broader in scope) could probably retire if they had a dollar for every time they’ve heard the following words:
“I just can’t seem to MAKE myself . . .”
Volitional control seems to be a result of a decision-making process of some sort — but there’s a huge gap between deciding to do something and actually DOING it. Unfortunately, there seems to be very little understanding of that sad fact, and even less help.
Troll the internet and you will see hundreds of articles from the “Just DO it” camp, and practically none that really help those of us who struggle with activation to DO.
Oh sure, there are a bazillian tips and tricks for motivation, for dealing with so-called “procrastination,” for setting and reaching goals, staying in action, building the getting it done habit, and for a great many other related flavors of behavior coming from similar paradigms — each of which is PART of the picture, of course.
But don’t kid yourself that they’re all there is to it!
If you want the rationale and background, click the [dark grey] links to the articles above before you go any further.
Don’t believe some of the otherwise excellent “doing” blogs when they insist that the idea that we all work differently is a myth. NOT SO.
- Yes, “cars” drive in a similar fashion, but nobody expects to drive an old automatic with a teeny engine the same way they’d drive a just-off-the-showroom-floor 6-speed stick-shifter, right?
- I always say that we each need to “learn to drive the very brain we were born with – even if it’s taken a few hits in the meantime.”™
- If you want to understand how YOU work, you have to take an unvarnished look at what happens when you don’t.
(I can help with that one-on-one, by the way)
EVEN if you already “get it” where activation struggles are concerned — once you’ve read to the bottom, make it a point to go back for the introductory articles anyway (if you haven’t read them already).
You’ll find duplicates of the most relevant internal links under “Related Content” below (99% of the over 400 posts and pages on this blog are set up like that, btw)
In my [extensive] experience, until you understand the WHY, you are highly likely to decide that some of the techniques are too simplistic to try (because you will probably find it difficult-to-impossible to believe that they’re not just a bunch of coaching hooey – they’re THAT simple)
I promise you they work – but NOTHING works until you try it!
And nothing continues to work unless you try it repeatedly. You wouldn’t expect a headache remedy you took today to work for your next headache, would you?
Your brain needs your help to build action neuro-links — and that means being willing to take just a BIT of initial action, not simply trying it on mentally as you read the information for the first time (or even second or third!)
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