Creating Community Together
Monday, July 4, 2011 6 Comments
What Goes Around Comes Around
by Madelyn Griffith-Haynie, CTP, CMC, ACT, MCC, SCAC
One of the things I miss most is the closeness of the community “back in the day” when it was not so widespread.
Anyone who has read The Goose Story** on my first website surely knows how VERY much I value community — and how “aggressively” I define that term. Leading the charge toward its creation has been a spiritual calling — a mission, if you will.
It has been a real heartbreaker to watch the ADD Coaching field I gave up so much to build devolve into what often feels more like a competition than a community - battle of the coach trainings, battle of the websites, battle of the tips and tricks, battle of the treatment approaches, battle of the etiologies – even a battle between various approaches toward coaching in general and ADD Coaching in particular.
I’m hoping that what is beginning to emerge more and more lately portends more of a “coopetition” that means that others are a battle-weary as I.
Yes, we must each take care of paying our bills and supporting our families with what we do with some of the minutes of our lives.
But I have always believed that we would ALL have an easier time of that particular objective by joining forces, rather than “competing for market share.” How about you?
Co-creating the Kind of World We Want
I plan to add to this post with others on the same topic;
I invite those of you with similar views to lift your voices with mine.
Let’s work together for the mutual good of our communities and our planet – becoming resources for each other because it is simply the right thing to do – meaning the thing that will create the kind of world we want – a world that works for EVERYONE.
In addition to blogging about it, I plan to throw my own “shoulder to the wheel” of like-minded individuals in a practical fashion as well – by helping to publicize what they are doing in a number of ways, beginning with the following actions:
**If you are NOT familiar with Noyes’ free-verse poem, it’s really worth a look – click on it’s title (above, with the stars), and a new window will open to give you a chance to read it. VERY inspiring!
MGH Support, exclusively for the Supportive
- swapping content with like-minded sites
- adding links to relevant articles on like-minded sites
- reviewing those sites as a way of allowing those who are looking for information to have an idea of what to expect where (beyond the brief marketing blurbs available from the search engines)
- offering discounts and scholarships to those who are actively engaged in the communal effort, AND
- making some of my own stuff available ONLY on like-minded sites — to encourage everybody to check them out.
(I’ll link titles with a short preview or description under the ADD Community Support category, to let you know where to find which specific content that I sprinkle around the ADD i-net universe. To find them, look on the lighter grey, lower menubar under the MGH Funhouse menu choice – my own little homestead in ADD blog heaven. When you click ADD Community Support from the drop-down, the most recent posts in that category will line up on the page for your review)
More than Mutual Back Scratching
My intention here is really not in the same ballpark with affiliate marketing, nor is it a re-branding of the term “coventure.” I want to be part of a coaching community that REALLY walks it talk.
If we truly believe in keeping our focus on what’s good for our clients, that “fit” is an important concept and that, given a relatively comparative skills level, FIT is the single most important predictor of success, then collegial support and a referral climate are no brainers!
“Competition” is non-existent in the context of FIT. Right?
So the only way to “join” this particular club is to share it’s ground of being.
A New Beginning
Field competition was becoming more and more of a toleration over time. Competition is an obsolete model that sets into place a dynamic that takes on a hateful every-man-for-himself life of its own. It is fear-based, coming from a zero-sum, scarcity model that is out of integrity with what the coaching field says it stands for.
It really bugs me. I was finding it increasingly difficult to get off my judgment about it, and I was finding it increasingly difficult to keep from judging myself for my judgment!
At one particularly low point, I considered “taking my football and going home!” — enforcing my copyrights, pulling my content, and finding something else to do for a living.
Fortunately, my Higher Self prevailed. I began to embrace the idea that shifting the paradigm made a lot more sense than abandoning a field that initially showed great promise for the planet, which seems to be losing its way as it ages.
I plan to begin by focusing on what I want to increase, making it highly attractive to join me in co-creating a new beginning for the coaching field overall and the ADD Coaching field in particular.
So if any of this rings a bell with YOU, chime in below – and leave me a link to check out your site for areas where we can engage in mutual support.